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SexhoundDog · 08-05-2004, 06:25 PM

Shady Virgin,
After reading your initial post and your wife's reaction, it kind of reminds me of my own experience over 20 years ago. I don't know if the outcome would've been any different, but you hit the nail on the head when you said you think your wife is insecure. Therefore, she probably thinks your primary interest in swinging is so YOU can have some extra pussy.

I think you can probably rectify your situation where she won't be pissed at you, regardless of whether she wants or doesn't want to swing. The next time you bring it up, you've got to make it clear to her that one of your reasons for wanting to try is that the thought of HER getting some strange dick is a real turn on to you, as much if not more so than you getting some strange pussy.

Along that vein, you might even tell her that the idea of an MFM with the guy of HER choosing is a turn on for you as well, even though you won't be getting any different partner. How does that idea work for you? If it doesn't, you've probably read enough on this board to know you ain't a swinger. If it does work, I think you've got a helluva lot better chance of having her think about the idea, even if she doesn't want to act on it now. At least it will open up the conversation on how she feels about a different dick, and I've got to believe the MFM image might conjure up yummy thoughts in her head. Good luck!

08-05-2004, 06:25 PM	#38 (permalink)
SexhoundDog Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 357 Location: Colorado Status: M.Male	Re: The seven year itch Shady Virgin, After reading your initial post and your wife's reaction, it kind of reminds me of my own experience over 20 years ago. I don't know if the outcome would've been any different, but you hit the nail on the head when you said you think your wife is insecure. Therefore, she probably thinks your primary interest in swinging is so YOU can have some extra pussy. I think you can probably rectify your situation where she won't be pissed at you, regardless of whether she wants or doesn't want to swing. The next time you bring it up, you've got to make it clear to her that one of your reasons for wanting to try is that the thought of HER getting some strange dick is a real turn on to you, as much if not more so than you getting some strange pussy. Along that vein, you might even tell her that the idea of an MFM with the guy of HER choosing is a turn on for you as well, even though you won't be getting any different partner. How does that idea work for you? If it doesn't, you've probably read enough on this board to know you ain't a swinger. If it does work, I think you've got a helluva lot better chance of having her think about the idea, even if she doesn't want to act on it now. At least it will open up the conversation on how she feels about a different dick, and I've got to believe the MFM image might conjure up yummy thoughts in her head. Good luck!