What does MLIF mean?
Now, I'm really glad you asked this question, Betty1213, as it is something I've pondered myself. Not in terms of swinging so much as in everyday life. However, I've found much to correlate between swinging and those same everyday relationships.
Beyond that, all I could guess at is that just like in "real life" you will find some that appreciate and respect you for your assertiveness and others that are put off by it. I would venture to guess that you just haven't met the right people yet, and no...I wouldn't change anything (at least for myself). I spent too many years learning assertiveness to toss it away for something that in the end isn't that terribly important to me, e.g., a swinging relationship.
I'l be greatly interested in other responses. Good luck and Welcome to the board, too! - EBF
