I am with every one else on this..... discretion is very important. Also i think taking your time to get to know the couple. Some couples can be rather pushy, and sometimes you feel like u should be moving to the "next level" with them, but you know that u arent ready or comfortable enough with them. DO NOT let them try to tell u that this is the way it is done........ especially if they have been in the lifestyle for a while. Some couples are really smooth talkers.......lol, and u will be into something u arent ready for. Just take your time..... there are no rules except your own when it comes when u are ready to play with another couple. We ran into this early on, when we were newbies so i thought i would put in my 2 cents!
Sherry and Dave