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Originally Posted by stoutgatte If I was you and still interested, I'd send them a message saying: "I'm sorry, I did not know about your rule and I feel it's your work to communicate it to people you chat with. I'm sorry if I offended you in any way, it was not the intention." If they still won't talk to you drop it, there are plenty of fish in the sea, they are not the only swinger couple out there who will be interested in you or you will find interesting. |
Well, I sorta already said that. I said:
Me: I'm not really sure I understand. You were watching me do homework, nothing more. I can understand that she is upset that you violated one of your rules, but I'm not sure that what "happened"--a conversation that included watching me sit at my desk--really warrants moving on. That said, I respect your decision, and we won't bother you again.
Him: thank you and I am deeply sorry.....but I will keep you on buddy list cause as soon as we get this straight I would like to talk with both of you again ...tell BigL im sorry too
Me: Well, write us if you'd like. Bye.
Me: bye
Now, as you guys have already said, it's a little weird for her to have kinda flipped out like that, and I had already thought of the, "geez, if she was upset about that, what if we did something wrong while we were all naked" argument. If he contacts us again, ok, but if he doesn't it's no big loss. I just want to get the most learning out of the learning experience as I can
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Originally Posted by stoutgatte Also (and this is only my opinion), I believe 2xfirst time couples will be way more difficult to all share a good experience, there is so many unknowns in swinging (especially on the emotional side during your first time) that doubling up the risk doesn't sit well with me. I'd suggest going with a more experienced couple who are at least comfy with their side of things for your first time. That way the only unknowns are your feelings and reactions... I'm not saying it can't work, I'm just saying you're doubling your risk of something simple going wrong... |
Which is why we were considering them, because they are very experienced. Not newbies at all.
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Originally Posted by N&G I have to agree with what the others have posted but there is another possibility. Have you actually chatted with the wife on the phone or seen her on webcam? I suspect that she doesn't have a clue as to what he is doing and she caught him chatting with another woman while she was thought to be asleep. He probably falls into the "Married but cheating" category. If you never see him again it will be no loss. |
I have not actually chatted with her, but it was pretty clear to me that she was aware we had been talking and that she swings with him, he doesn't do it alone. She had seen (and admired
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