So my sweetie and I were talking with this couple that we were interested in maybe getting together with. Since neither he or I have any experience swinging, we wanted to go slowly and talk a lot online first about expectations, preferences, and just general things. Well, the other night after a few days of sending swappernet messages the male of this couple and I were online at the same time. We IMed for several hours, just talking. We barely even touched on the subject of sex, we were just getting to know each other. It's finals time for me and the entire time this was happening I was studying. I invited him to view my webcam, which he did. Now even if I weren't studying I wouldn't have "done" anything on it, just because that's really not my style. He was simply watching me study and talk to him.
Well, I wrote them a mail through swappernet last night and did not get a response. I saw that they had read it and knew that they had always responded promptly before, and I was confused. Tonight I saw him online, and apparently his wife doesn't want him to talk to us anymore because I let him look at my webcam "thinking he was alone". Well, yeah. I knew his wife was asleep. I didn't know they had a rule that they would only look at cams when they were both there (I learned that tonight). So he made a little mistake, but nothing "happened" so I'm not sure why it matters enough to not talk to us anymore.
: Is it bad form to invite 1/2 of a couple to view your cam if you know the other isn't there? IM in general? Did I violate some rule because I 'm a total beginner that I should have known about?
LittleL