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Originally Posted by taomaster Question: is this not how things happen in clubs in the U.S.? Does everyone socialise first before deciding to play? |
I can't speak for all clubs in the U.S., but at the ones we go to we allways socialize first before we decide to play. In fact at the club we most often go to if you touch someone without first getting permission from that person you have a good chance of getting tossed out of the club by the hosts.
To answer the original question. We no longer consider "taking one for the team". Unless we are both in agreement about the other couple no play takes place. This was not allways so, when we first started we would on occasion "take one for the team", the problem we had was as some others have alluded to here, if the attraction isn't there for me, nothing I do will get me to "rise to the occasion". So after a couple experiances we came to the conclusion that even though it meant playing a lot less often, we both have full veto power no matter what the reason. That doesn't mean that the people have to be super model material, it just means we both have to be into the couple and feel attraction toward them.