The Swingers Board - View Single Post - The other couple: one is very attractive, her/his partner is not

couplentulsa · 08-02-2004, 09:24 AM

I agree wrnakedru we definetly wouldn't "take one for the team". It is very difficult to find another couple where the attraction is equal all the way around, plus trying to find other couples that we do enjoy talking and hanging out with also. Thats very hard to do when peoples tastes are always different. We usually try to never play on the first date so that everyone gets a vote and has time to discuss with their partner if they are really and truely interested.... plus it's always exciting to discuss
"the first date" between the two of us after we meet a new couple.

I honestly think it would be a waste of good valuable time to sleep with people that you aren't really interested in (eventhough it always takes some time to really get to know people). But ....Also, "just not right" for the other couple who you will soon have to tell them..."thanks, but after all of that we just aren't interested." makes for a bad reputation and feelings that could possibly be hurt. Plus, It wouldn't be fun for me if my spouse wasn't truely satisfied! That definetly wouldn't make our swinging expierences fun!

08-02-2004, 09:24 AM	#6 (permalink)
couplentulsa Active Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 16 Location: jenks Status: couple Swing Lifestyle Name:a_couple_in_tulsa	Re: The other couple: one is very attractive, her/his partner is not - do you swing? I agree wrnakedru we definetly wouldn't "take one for the team". It is very difficult to find another couple where the attraction is equal all the way around, plus trying to find other couples that we do enjoy talking and hanging out with also. Thats very hard to do when peoples tastes are always different. We usually try to never play on the first date so that everyone gets a vote and has time to discuss with their partner if they are really and truely interested.... plus it's always exciting to discuss "the first date" between the two of us after we meet a new couple. I honestly think it would be a waste of good valuable time to sleep with people that you aren't really interested in (eventhough it always takes some time to really get to know people). But ....Also, "just not right" for the other couple who you will soon have to tell them..."thanks, but after all of that we just aren't interested." makes for a bad reputation and feelings that could possibly be hurt. Plus, It wouldn't be fun for me if my spouse wasn't truely satisfied! That definetly wouldn't make our swinging expierences fun!