 Re: the unfulfilled dreams
My initial thought is that you might be shooting yourself in the foot with a bit of a Catch-22.
On one hand you want to meet people to swing with but on the other hand you are so worried about the reprecussions that you won't/don't allow yourselves to be open enough to even allow people to get to know you.
Being so restrictive about yourselves and avoiding questions/answers and such will often make others feel that you aren't being for real and/or aren't serious so they will end up blowing you off for fear that continuing is just a waste of their time.
When it comes down to it, if you want things to happen you are going to have to take a chance or three or four to let it happen. That doesn't mean you have to send out pics or post them on an ad, but I do think that if you aren't willing ot send out facial pics AT ALL that you are going to seriously limit yourselves on meeting anyone that you will find compatible. I think that if you aren't going to do pics then you have to be more open in other ways.
The only thing you can really do is to be as open as possible in your ads. Be honest and explain that you have careers that don't allow you to be at all open or to send out facial pics until you konw you can trust someone,etc. But then... when will you KNOW you can trust someone? How long do you expect people to be patient? And why shouldn't they wonder if you are up to something and just playing games or trying to trap them? |