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Originally Posted by jrt383 So to boil all the bs out i just follow their lead and just go with? Is that the right attitude about this? |
Exactly. Just don't take it too seriously and remember that their issues are more complex than yours. You just want to get laid and look good doing it without pissing anybody off, simple. Their concerns are a little more complex so you can make them most comfortable by being gracious about getting that.
The performance anxiety is totally normal. It can be unnerving to be thinking in the back of your head that there is a straight guy sitting there watching you. He's obviously enjoying something about it or they wouldn't ask you so just remember that he's cheering you on and have fun.
I would ask each of them directly what the deal is, like what their fantasy is that they are into living out or what it is that makes them want to include you like that. It makes me feel less anxious if I know what my role is supposed to be and the communication feels reassuring. Some people like to be spontaneous. Your call.