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Originally Posted by PotentialSwnger his response:
"I don't think that I could do it knowing that my father is a swinger. It is bad enough to know that your parents still have sex, but to walk in from high school, time after time, and witness my dad and step mom OBVIOUSLY flirting with two people that I had never seen before made it alot worse! My dad would hand me money and tell me to find somewhere to stay for the night while they "entertained" their company." |
My first reaction was drag him off to see a psychologist, but then again, most of them believe we (swingers) are a little too far off the beaten track anyway...
So that not really being an option (although I might explore it anyway), sit down and talk some more. Ask him if he's considering it, and if you should let it go... You can work on reassuring him that you will be more discreet about it. His parents should have been anyway, or they should have been really open about it and discussed it with him...
I'm at a loss for words to describe the emotions I felt when I read:
"My dad would hand me money and tell me to find somewhere to stay for the night while they "entertained" their company." It started out as compassion towards him changing to anger at them for treating him so callously, almost dismissing him so they could have their pleasure. I'm pretty sure this left some serious emotional scars...
I'd be very wary of pushing the issue too far at the moment. But it sounds like he enjoys the fantasy, and by carrying on sharing your fantasy with him you will slowly (ie, years) allow him to become accustomed to the idea that you want it. He may never say, yeah, lets start playing, but you'll have many nights worth of really hot sex if his reaction is anything similar to what you first experienced...