[TeamSoBe]

My wife and I have had quite a few emotional screaming matches on the long road toward understanding each other. Plenty of them about this whole fucking-other-people thing. Plenty of them when the word "cheat" came up, and was used forcefully. Plenty where one or the other of us accused the other of being a sicko purv with no self control.

She and I actually get along really well. You wouldn't know during those two hours on the confrontation days, but overall we get along really really well, we love each other very much, and we are comfortable getting frisky with friends. We always end up learning a little about each other after those fights and we never stay pissed off. We have had several different times where we just called everyting off entirely for weeks or months because it wasn't right for one or the other of us. We always end up coming back to wanting to fuck people for kicks. Guess it's just in us.

Keep talking to your wife. Whether either of you ever end up getting laid you'll end up learning about each other and you'll get closer. If it's right for both of you then you'll end up converging on a policy that leads toward rolling around naked with people. If not then that won't happen and hopefully you'll still be happy.

Very important for you at your stage to not be goal-oriented. She's sensitive toward the idea that you're pushing an agenda that involves getting permission to cheat on her and you really will be doing that if you don't watch yourself. Wrap your head around the idea that from where you're standing it will probably take years before you and your wife are ready, and if you're still into it knowing that then keep talking about it even if it leads to some drama every once in a while. Drama is good for your relationship as long as you make a point of learning something from it.