[OhioCouple]

Speaking from the perspective of a female in which this kinda got sprung on me once many moons ago with Mr. O...I pretty much took the stance that your wife did.

Knowing now, what I did not then, and due to the fact of the time between your postings, my best bet is that you brought the subject up, out of eagerness. Entirely understandable. However speaking only for myself, when my husband first brought this up to me, every insecurtiy that I'd ever had, cropped up. We had often had fun talking in fantasy, but he was talking reality and that scared the bejeebers out of me. Of course there were a lot of other factors, such as we had only been together a few years, I'd been cheated on in the past...etc. I voiced my distaste and the matter was dropped. Several years later, I was the one who re-introduced the prospect. By this time I had had time to research the swinging lifestye, time to adjust in my role as a wife and lover, and comfortable with knowing that we had a firm committment to each other. While he had dropped the subject, imagine his surprise when I suggested it.

My advice to you, Shady, is that now you have planted the seed it is time to follow your wife's lead . She may or may not embrace the lifestyle, however you have each learned something new about the other. If you dare, you may want to show her this website for her to read on her own, or the better case scenario...you read it together.

Best of luck to you both and Welcome to the board!!

Mrs. O