[WesternSwing]

Be sure that she knows it's not because you're bored with her and want someone else. She may be feeling threatened, and an angry response would be exactly what you would get.

Ask her in complete trust if she has ever had fantasies about other men, real people or imagined. Let her know that it is okay if she has, it's normal and not threatening because you know that you are number one in her life. You are the reality, they are the fantasy. Talk about her first, then let her ask you questions about it.

If she start relaxing a bit, introduce her to this site (at her own pace of course, don't force her to read it). Let her read what swingers have to say about it.

The number one thing about swinging is communication. And I can say that without a doubt that the level of communication between my wife and I has increased infinitely since we started swinging. We are better, closer friends then ever before. I've discovered that while sex between us is the best sex of all, it is not the only glue that holds us together. And away from swinging, we act like teenagers in love.

Mr. WS