I'm with the "depends on who you're with" theory. The single male and the couple we play with currently are very, very safe bets. But we've been with other (not a ton, but a couple of times) who have obviously been "out there" and I've insisted on protection. I'd like an explanation of the aids being "pre-cum" not sure what you meant by that. I guess so far I've thought that if I feel its ok to fuck without then its ok to suck without! If its not ok to fuck without then I don't want to suck either. That's not true ... I do want to suck but I won't
