It actually depends on what you're looking for - that is, what you hope to find and get from the experience. Certainly, if all one's expectation level is simply to have sex with someone - you are correct. That is not difficult to find. For us, what is sought is something a notch above walking into a club and saying - "Okay, who in here is ready to get into some hot monkey sex?"
We're a fun, in love couple who recently celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary. Happily married, very little to no drama in our regular everyday lives. We're well attuned to one another; even kind and considerate to one another. Prefer to spend time around similar types of people.
We've got a multitude of eclectic interests, and find pleasure in many aspects of life. Although sex is one of those, so is sitting on a porch with a bottle of wine watching a thunderstorm blow in.
Love to go dancing, drinking, flirting, and raising hell too, though!
We don't NEED to swing, as our sex life is complete just the way it is. If and when we do decide to swing, it's a choice we've made together and will never be because it is “expected” by others. We're not a “f**k to just get off” kinda couple and therefore aren't a good match for those who are. We like to take our time; we like things slow - in an almost 'lazy' manner, but sensual, steamy, and very erotic. facelick Not just a quick bang. We will never, ever go there if the mood's not right, and again, especially just because it's anticipated or expected by others.
We look for pleasant, fun, “swinger minded” couples for friendships. We like to find people who are not solely motivated by "the bottom line" and are as laid back and easy going about the lifestyle as we are.
We're not the type that has to want to go to bed with someone in order to be able to hang out with them, and we expect the same thing in others. We don't care to meet those who can only think or talk about sex and nothing else.
Does this mean we're not going to have sex in numbers to compete with others, even though it's out there and we could? Yep, I guess it does.
Does this seem like we've complicated the process? Perhaps. But it's what works for us and we wouldn't have it any other way.
WR
