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Our first experience was full swap. Then we met a couple who were soft swing only (and still are to this very day). We had some good times with them and are still friends, but found we preferred full swap.

Initially, the Mrs. preferred different rooms because she could not relax if she thought that I was watching her enjoy herself and partner. She thought I would be critiquing her. Instead, watching her was just very erotic for me. She now understands that and does not have a preference of same or different rooms.

Also, we don't mind soft swinging with others as long as it will eventually lead to a full swap. As we all do, we remember what it was like for us as beginners and respect their limits. However, as a preference, we do look for others who prefer full swap.

Just a final thought here. We really don't like the term "swap". It has a permanent conotation to it. We understand the history of the term and why it is still used, but we like the term "share" instead.

Chickadiva, we certainly agree with you. We have had to wade our way through some real weirdos with more explanations than a lying teenager to meet the "real" friends we have as swingers. As you have found, the couples we have met have truly been worth the effort.