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We are members of this board but I feel so stupid about this situation so i'd like to remain anonymous. My husband is a body builder. He just turned 41 and has the best body i've ever seen. He is surrounded by beautiful women everyday so naturally I feel a lot of pressure to stay in shape. I was in an accident a few years ago and since have had three surgeries to prevent my ankle from needing to be fused. Because of all this I have gained 30lbs.
The people he is attracted to specify criteria like *HWP* or *fit cpls only*. WOW!....talk about feeling like the party foul!...LOL He tells me "of course I like nice bodies but that's not what's most important to me. It's about a cpls attitude and the connection we have with them." Which sounds great... but for me (him too) it's physical attraction that inspires me to get to know the cpl and build the "connection" with.
How can we balance this so neither of us end up feeling uncomfortable or out of place?