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WesternSwing · 06-26-2004, 01:28 PM

Both my bride and I are on our second marriages. We've been together 6 years and married for 4 of them. She was married the first time for about 2 years, and I 11 years.

We both brought some ex-baggage into our relationship (how can you not) in one way or another, but we both know what didn't work in our previous marriages and try to avoid the same stuff. And we've worked through the old bad stuff together.

I really think you do get a better perspective of what to avoid after a failed marriage. Or at least some do. If it were truely the case than the rate for second marriages failing would be much less, not 10% more, than the rate of first marriages failing. This may simply be that many of the second marriages started from the failing of the first (such as in affairs, the case with my ex-wife who is now divorced from the guy she left me for).

But if you enter into a second marriage with allot of self reflection and introspection the next marriage can be much healthier. I know my marriage to Mrs. WS is. Has it made it easier to swing? I think yes. There is an open line of communication in our relationship that was never there in our first marriages.

Mr. WS

06-26-2004, 01:28 PM	#38 (permalink)
WesternSwing South of disorder Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 2,842 Location: Utah Status: Male half of married couple	Re: Marriage/ Divorce Both my bride and I are on our second marriages. We've been together 6 years and married for 4 of them. She was married the first time for about 2 years, and I 11 years. We both brought some ex-baggage into our relationship (how can you not) in one way or another, but we both know what didn't work in our previous marriages and try to avoid the same stuff. And we've worked through the old bad stuff together. I really think you do get a better perspective of what to avoid after a failed marriage. Or at least some do. If it were truely the case than the rate for second marriages failing would be much less, not 10% more, than the rate of first marriages failing. This may simply be that many of the second marriages started from the failing of the first (such as in affairs, the case with my ex-wife who is now divorced from the guy she left me for). But if you enter into a second marriage with allot of self reflection and introspection the next marriage can be much healthier. I know my marriage to Mrs. WS is. Has it made it easier to swing? I think yes. There is an open line of communication in our relationship that was never there in our first marriages. Mr. WS