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This is an interesting question. While I agree on not talking to people about other people, especially concerning play details and gossiping is just something I hate, I do have another question of sorts.

Since the community is relatively small it’s inevitable that many of the friends we make and a lot of the people we meet all know each other to some degree after a while. Now, we often know someone is a friend of friends because either they have a certification on their internet ad from them or the other friends had mentioned them.

Is it OK to say, “hey we know you know so-and-so, we are friends of theirs too.” Not to discuss what goes on between them, just as a social conversation piece.

I find this so awkward sometimes. If it was “vanilla,” or whatever you want to call it, and I met people at a social function that I knew where friends of friends, I would have no problem with saying something nice like, “Hello, I understand you know John & Marsha, they have said great things about you two…blah-blah blah….” It’s a social way of meeting people and starting a conversation on common ground.

In the “swing world” I am so afraid of breaching any etiquette that even when I KNOW they are friends with people I know I never try to say anything about it all. What usually happens is someone else mentions it eventually. Usually, it’s someone else saying, “Hey! We know so-and-so too…yadda-yadda-yadda…”

At that point I may admit to knowing someone but since I felt so unsure to begin with the feeling of awkwardness is there…


So, what is OK to do?? Just to stress, I am NOT asking if it’s OK to talk about any sex or play… just acknowledging aquantences…

Regards,
~D