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Originally Posted by AustinandStacy Maybe I am reading this wrong. a) Boyfriend and Girlfriend at 18 are fine as swingers, but b) married couple at 25 are not fine as swingers, and are likely to get divorced. |
Well your reading it partially wrong. BF/GF at 18 may or may not be O.K. as far as a swinging relationship is concerned. Is it to young to experiment? Not in my opinion. Is it too young to tell? Yup.
A 25 year old married couple? If I bet 100 of those couples that they'd end up divorced I'm thinkin I'd come out with at least a 90% profit.
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Originally Posted by AustinandStacy It seems like you are implying that the 18 year olds aren't worried about long term prospects with each other, or else they would end in category b) eventually, and their relationship would be destroyed. |
That's exactly what I'm saying. Although an 18 year old might think they are in it for the long haul most of em aren't. Does that mean they can't have a good time swinging?
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Originally Posted by AustinandStacy Personally, I wouldn't touch any couple without a long term commitment to each other with a 39 1/2 foot pole. (Much like the Grinch.) We know, at least as far as we go, our maturity as a couple skyrocketed when we actually had to move in together, compiled the finances, and had to make REAL decisions in the best interests of the partnership. I'm sure some high schoolers have enough maturity and communication skills to swing, but I know that no matter HOW well you know each other, you know much more once you have a home set up. |
I agree with most of what you said above except the long term commitment part. If my wife and I were to swing with another couple my main priority would not be their "relationship". My wife and I have our own relationship and it is great. I don't need to worry about yours. As long as you don't squabble around us I really couldn't care less.
I've been living with my wife for over ten years and when we first moved in together paying the bills with a joint checking account seemed like a huge deal. After ten years it's not such a big deal and in no way defines our relationship.
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Originally Posted by AustinandStacy We are just getting started, and are in our mid twenties. We know a bunch of couples who started in the lifestyle earlier than us, or at the same age. They are now in their 40s and 50s, and it's like they're still on their honeymoon. Frankly, I'm a little peeved that you are so judgmental, and so certain all of our unions are going to end up in the scrap pile. (Either that, or you are a really loose gambler.  I wouldn't bet several monthly paychecks that martians wouldn't land tomorrow. That's a lot of money.) |
Sorry you're peeved. I have a suggestion for you. In order to avoid high blood pressure in the future, you might begin by not putting words in peoples mouths. I never said YOUR relationship would end up in "the scrap pile". I've never met you in my life, how could I make that judgement? I simply said I'd take the bet based on your age group. Like I said, if I found 100 married couples (in their early-mid twenties) who were swingers and bet all of em about the divorce factor I'd end up with a bunch of profit. I've never even conversed with you, where did you get the idea I was talking directly to you?
P.S. I'll even give you 5-1 on the Martian thing, just name the day
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Originally Posted by AustinandStacy That's not to say all swingers are going to be happy together forever, but just because you start in your mid twenties doesn't mean that you are fundamentally unsound and your relationship is damned. (However, you said that unmarried 18 year olds can have a perfectly stable swinging relationship. . . I guess I'm just confused.) |
Again I never said anyone was "fundamently unsound" or that their "relationship was damned".
I also never said, "unmarried 18 year olds can have a perfectly stable swinging relationship". Please copy and paste my quote so I can see it. I guess you are confused but welcome to the club everyone is
