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Originally Posted by leftcoastcouple Going back to the little "What about them?" game my wife and I play when we're out alone (which is rare, since we have young children!), she'll sometimes say "yes" about a guy who just bugs me for some reason. It could be anything. And it's usually something trivial. Maybe he has bad hair. Maybe he's a horrible dresser. Maybe he has an obnoxious laugh. Maybe he likes bad '80s hair metal. You name it. But if I view whatever trait that annoys me as a little ID card for his personality, and it's enough to bug me, I'd be inclined to say something to her.
My whole point in asking was, if we went ahead and played with someone like that, and I had thoughts afterwards like, "Ew, she was with THAT GUY," that would be hard for me to deal with. After all, she's my wife, not just somebody I screw recreationally. Anything that might make me feel alienated from her, like "following" a guy who I thought was gross, sends up a big old red flag in my mind. |
Trying not to scold here (I swear!
) but people, even married people have different taste. Just because she likes a guy who is a throwback to the 70s with gold chains and a hairy chest named Larry, doesn't mean that you have to. I think that being a bit less critical of her choices will make the experience better for the both of you.
Don't judge her on her taste. It's all about having fun. If she has fun with a guy that YOU don't find to fit your idea of attractive, does not mean that they aren't. AND she had fun...isn't THAT what it's all about?
LC