[LadyCleo]

Hmmm...let's explore this a bit more...

Are you wanting to veto because of your own insecurity?
If so, I think that is a bit unfair.
How would you feel if you got a chance to "score" with the hottest chick (besides your wife) and she said no because the chick was hot?
You might not be too happy about that, right?

I understand you always wanting to be top dog, but baby, you are.
YOU are the one she comes home with. YOU are the one she loves.
YOU are the one she would quit the lifestyle for in a heartbeat if you asked.

If you are wanting to veto because there is something creepy that you cannot quite put your finger on, then yes, I think that is an appropriate use of the "veto" card.

For context, my husband and I are both picky. But he is the better judge of character. If there is someone that I'm interested in and hubby says no. I don't do it. There is a high level of trust there. I trust that he's vetoing because there is something wrong with that other person, not because my hubby thinks the guy is better than him. (There is NO way that will ever happen...)

Good luck to you!
LC