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Originally Posted by RW1F Depends on what you mean by swinging. If you mean swinging as single or in a boyfriend and girlfriend situation I would say any age over 18 is fine. If you mean in a marriage, I'd bet several months paychecks that people that swing in their early-mid twenties will end up divorced. |
Maybe I am reading this wrong. a) Boyfriend and Girlfriend at 18 are fine as swingers, but b) married couple at 25 are not fine as swingers, and are likely to get divorced. It seems like you are implying that the 18 year olds aren't worried about long term prospects with each other, or else they would end in category b) eventually, and their relationship would be destroyed. Personally, I wouldn't touch any couple without a long term commitment to each other with a 39 1/2 foot pole. (Much like the Grinch.) We know, at least as far as we go, our maturity as a couple skyrocketed when we actually had to move in together, compiled the finances, and had to make REAL decisions in the best interests of the partnership. I'm sure some high schoolers have enough maturity and communication skills to swing, but I know that no matter HOW well you know each other, you know much more once you have a home set up.
We are just getting started, and are in our mid twenties. We know a bunch of couples who started in the lifestyle earlier than us, or at the same age. They are now in their 40s and 50s, and it's like they're still on their honeymoon. Frankly, I'm a little peeved that you are so judgmental, and so certain all of our unions are going to end up in the scrap pile. (Either that, or you are a really loose gambler.
I wouldn't bet several monthly paychecks that martians wouldn't land tomorrow. That's a lot of money.)
That's not to say all swingers are going to be happy together forever, but just because you start in your mid twenties doesn't mean that you are fundamentally unsound and your relationship is damned. (However, you said that unmarried 18 year olds can have a perfectly stable swinging relationship. . . I guess I'm just confused.)