[Spoomonkey]

It's funny - we were talking about this yesterday. We were talking about a certain situation and I made the statement that she had "the final say." She told me that she didn't like that kind of pressure and preferred that I had the final say. Realizing that we were talking about something that both of us have already come to terms with, I told her that it didn't matter because we each held a "veto".

Not only that, She has used hers - without any moaning on my part. If she's not comfortable, I don't question it.

We have another situation that seems to be brewing, but I have my veto card handy - and have told her so - because I have a few questions that I need answered first. Something strange is afoot; I can't quite put my finger on it, but something just doesn't smell right.

You have to have the veto. In our case, it is a matter of trust - knowing that our partner is going to be willing to put us first over any situation that arises. If I am just not comfortable with a situation - for whatever reason - I know that I would not have to drag my wife away kicking and screaming.

Spoomonkey