My answer: you darned betcha!
If there's something about a female and the way she conducts herself that makes me uncomfortable, I would be pretty durned upset if hubby continued to skip down the primrose path towards her.
And yes, it not only should go both ways - you shouldn't have to come up with some sort of "valid" reason. If you can't quite say why, or if you know exactly shouldn't matter. The fact is - that primary partner has to be held in honor- and that means honoring their feelings in this case.
Keep in mind too, that you really OWE it to your partner to keep them safe from somebody who gives you the heebie-jeebies. Don't be tempted to set those feelings aside simply because you find the man's wife quite appealing. Forego that particular pleasure out of deference to your wife's well being.
I'm a big believer in going with your gut instinct about folks. Those feelings are most often correct. [Unless you had something
really spicey for dinner!]
I think honoring your partner's wishes is the right thing to do, whether you play together or separately.
Of course, if one of you manages to find something wrong with
anybody and everybody the other finds appealing - well, then there's something else working here. Then, all bets are off until that gets solved!
WR
