I wouldn't say everyone is "tolerant and politically correct," Soflafun. Most just have differing opinions. That's not to say they're right and you're wrong, just the ideas of "what's important" differ. There are folks who agree with you. Others don't.
In most cases, not all, it takes years and maturity to develop a relationship that can embrace swinging. That's why so many swingers are older and, therefore, no longer look like Barbie and Ken.
There are exceptions to that as well, a fact that was driven home to me at a recent Meet Up! in Indianapolis.
You have every right to maintain your standards, and should.
Mr. Alura