I think we all have a particular type of person that we are attracted to and those that don't fall into that criteria are automatically dismissed with little thought. Go stroll through the mall some Sunday afternoon and then think about the number of people you passed and the number that you actually recall passing. See what I mean? We all have different criteria for what we find attractive and what we don't. Ideally, the tall, dark handsome...but reality is entirely different. And...it isn't just physical attraction. There is the mental attraction, too? Are these people that I can talk to? Laugh with? Do we have some common interests? Do we have some "uncommon" interests but things I might find enjoyable or at least be willing to learn more about? Are they clean and neat in appearance?
I'm not certain this is answering your question, but I'd like to encourage you to simply look for people that you would find attractive if swinging wasn't the end goal. You will most likely answer your own question at that time.
- EBF
