[ALilOEverything]

At this point I can't imagine doing anything the first night. Mostly because I feel it's important to have time to be able to communicate with my husband that there is the attraction to both members of the couple and it's definitely something we want to do. I would rather talk about it too much than talk about it too little. I'm probably a little more cautious now than I will be later than I imagine. I would like to try out a club and will plan to just to have the experience. But at the same time as a single women I never once went home with a guy I met in a bar and wouldn't it be the same as a couple? Maybe I'm just not quite that liberated yet.

I just wanted to get an idea of what the norm was, I'm sure it will always depend on the couple, situation and what the pace is of the slowest person. It always seems like what I fantasize about and what actually happens in reality often end up being two completely different things.