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We met a new couple at the club the other weekend. They were both fun and nice. We did really like them on a friendly basis. I was somewhat attracted to him, she was not really our type. We danced with them and had fun. Then my husband started to feel sick so we left. We probably would have played with them if we stayed. Now we are talking about meeting them again and playing. My husband says he could, "take it or leave it." Not meaning that she is an it, just using that expression to best express his feeling about playing with them. He says, "who knows it could be a really great time..." Honestly, I kind of feel the same.

 

They are definitely interested in playing.

 

Normally I like to play with people I'm pretty sure I'll want to see again. Is it ok to try it out if you're not super attracted, but it seems like they might be fun?

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I would go with it

because

Pete and I met a couple and like WOW

dinner was great

strip poker was fun fun fun!

sex

was

uninspired

we were so surprised that it could all fall apart at that point. lol.

they were like performance artists and very very loud

all four of us were surprised and somewhat disappointed

so

you never know!

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We once met a couple in a similar situation. Mrs. Alura liked the guy but the lady, though very personable, was a lot heavier than my usual tastes. We went with it. Surprise, surprise! It was great and we played with them regularly for several years.

 

We had what we called "test fucks" from time to time. Sometimes it was a good experience and we continued to play. Sometimes not.

 

Alura

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If we were compatible with them and had fun hanging out, despite there not being a strong connection, we'd probably give it a try. Some of the folks we enjoy the most and meet with often were a "take it or leave it" situation.

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I gotta go with the consensus here. If you're connecting reasonably well, but the attraction maybe isn't quite "if I don't fuck you in the next ten minutes I'll die!!!", but is somewhat there...go with it. You may be very pleasantly surprised.

 

The reality, learned from vanilla dating and swinging; it's really, really hard to get a good read on just how good someone is in bed, and just how much connection you'll have with them in bed. Sometimes you think you have an idea, and you come up totally wrong.

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If we were compatible with them and had fun hanging out, despite there not being a strong connection, we'd probably give it a try. Some of the folks we enjoy the most and meet with often were a "take it or leave it" situation.

 

This sounds like us. We'll give a little time to explore the possibilities.

 

On a side note, I'd hate to be told "Sex with you? I could take it or leave it."

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Bbarnsworth nailed it.

 

From my experience you never know until you try it. Looks, body type, even personality don't mean anything until I start playing. I usually give chemistry test first... Kissing.

If my body accepts and doesn't reject him I would give it a try.

 

I had couple experiences in a club we used to go. There was a security guy there who was playing on occasion. We did kiss couple of times but somehow I didn't invite him to play and turned to another men every time.

If you all like each other why don't you try it.

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This sounds like us. We'll give a little time to explore the possibilities.

 

On a side note, I'd hate to be told "Sex with you? I could take it or leave it."

 

Ditto..that would be an ouch to find out you were that couple.:(

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Obviously we wouldn't say that to anyone. Do you think I need to delete this thread?

 

Nope. :)

 

And I wouldn't think you'd say that. You're too nice to do something like that.

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"On a side note, I'd hate to be told "Sex with you? I could take it or leave it."

Ditto..that would be an ouch to find out you were that couple."

 

I am sure we are that to at least a couple somewhere along the line....:lol:

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"On a side note, I'd hate to be told "Sex with you? I could take it or leave it."

Ditto..that would be an ouch to find out you were that couple."

 

I am sure we are that to at least a couple somewhere along the line....:lol:

 

I am quite sure we've been a take it or leave it couple also! And that's really ok with me!

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I would say plan to meet them at a club with the idea being "we are going to ...., if you guys want to meet us there" not under the assumption that you will play. At least that way you will be back in the right atmosphere and not necessarily committing yourself to them.

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Any follow up to this funcoupledayton? Did you happen to run into this couple again, and did your feelings about them remain the same?

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I am quite sure we've been a take it or leave it couple also! And that's really ok with me!

 

My guess is that most of our playmates could "take it or leave it." I think that's good. If a couple couldn't "leave it" we'd get all nervous and call them "clingy."

 

Alura

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Thought I would update this thread since it appeared near the top again:

 

We met the couple again at the club, we danced and flirted a bit, but nothing seemed to really be happening.

 

A few weeks later we saw them again and they were playing with long-time friends of theirs. We flirted, danced again.

 

A few weeks later they were in an open room playing by themselves. There were no more sheets so we asked if we could share the bed with them. They said, "come on in!" We ended up in a soft swap situation and had a great time with them. We will do it again in the future. So, good advice everyone, it turned out to be a hot time.

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They said, "come on in!" We ended up in a soft swap situation and had a great time with them. We will do it again in the future. So, good advice everyone, it turned out to be a hot time.

 

This almost sounds like us. Glad everything got better and you got a good experience out of it. We more or less started the same way, progressed to oral and are hoping for more.

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