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My wife and I have single female friend who is 100% straight. Since she does not have the intention to be in a serious relationship my wife suggested to her that she should visit a swingers club. She is around 40 and she does not want to be dating anybody because she considers that one night stands are safer is a swinger environment. But I consider that a swingers club is not the right place for a single straight woman. She will be looking for trouble if her only intention is to play with a married male. She enjoys being watched having sex, but, I think since she is not Bi, there are not many couples interested in a SSF. Am I wrong?

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I can't say I know the answer to this question, but my wife has told me on numerious occasions that if she ever does a one night stand (where I would not be involved in any capicity) it would be with a guy she meets at a swingers club. She has said she would feel safer in that environment.

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There are certainly straight couples that would love a FMF. Initially my wife was one of them, but lately is leaning toward playing with the RIGHT female as well.

 

That said, we, as I imagine most couples, would certainly respect her wishes to only play with the male half in a threesome.

 

If she is not interested in a threesome, there the population for her to play with is smaller, but there are still couples that have hall passes for each other to play solo.

 

But you are jumping the gun a bit. Even if she is looking for no strings attached sex as you say, she may not be comfortable with the idea of swinging or sleeping with a married man.

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Straight SF's can find plenty of action in a swinger world.

 

Basically all they are is a female who doesn't want a relationship and wants sex with a guy. She could easily get sex with a guy in the regular nilla dating scene, but the relationship part is tougher to come by oddly enough.

 

I say we need more straight SF's in the lifestyle, all of us hall pass hubbies are perfectly happy with more of them to choose from.

 

Nothing against bi females either, they are awesome too.

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Why wouldn't she be welcomed at a swing club if she wants to go? Why do couples have the mindset that adding another female to the mix means the women have to play with each other? This mindset certainly isn't there when asking a male to join a couple. Why can't the women just focus on the male of the couple similar to the way the female is focused on when a second male joins in the fun?

 

Plus if your friend would attend on a night (or a club) that allows single males, then she could have her pick of play partners.

 

Agreed with Couplerotic22...your friend may not even be game for exploring a lifestyle venue. :)

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She will have no problem finding people to play with in a swingers club.

 

There are many couples with a straight female and there are also many clubs that allow single men.

 

I can't think of much more that she could be looking for. :D

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We are sure there are many straight couples, like us, who would welcome a single straight female to play with, and, let the hubby have sex with her. Provided the wife is open-minded that is the only way her husband can have sex with a single woman while she (the wife) gets to watch. This is no different than the hubby watching while a single straight guy fucks his wife and the hubby and the guy,(both straight), have no sexual contact.

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We (a couple) have played with straight single females on several occasions at swingers clubs and had a wonderful time (I really should write a story). How are they any different from a single male in a club, except that they smell better and don't have a penis. There are plenty of couples who enjoy 3-somes with an extra male that do not include bi-play, why shouldn't a single female be enjoyed by a couple who doesn't engage in g/g activity? I'd encourage that woman to make several visits to the club, meet couples and singles and see what happens. Isn't exploring what the lifestyle is all about?

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My wife and I have single female friend who is 100% straight. Since she does not have the intention to be in a serious relationship my wife suggested to her that she should visit a swingers club. She is around 40 and she does not want to be dating anybody because she considers that one night stands are safer is a swinger environment. But I consider that a swingers club is not the right place for a single straight woman. She will be looking for trouble if her only intention is to play with a married male. She enjoys being watched having sex, but, I think since she is not Bi, there are not many couples interested in a SSF. Am I wrong?

 

You are right, it would be a bad decision. You are wrong on the second question. I am a married male playing alone. She is ill and has no further interest in sex. She knows I am looking for a woman for sex and she does not mind as long as she does not her or sees us together. I live in Las Cruces N. M. I would love to meet your lady friend.

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Why wouldn't she be welcomed at a swing club if she wants to go? Why do couples have the mindset that adding another female to the mix means the women have to play with each other? This mindset certainly isn't there when asking a male to join a couple. Why can't the women just focus on the male of the couple similar to the way the female is focused on when a second male joins in the fun? :)

 

:iagree:

 

We are a couple with a bisexual female...ME!. But would enjoy very much being with a straight woman in a threesome. No. I would not be playing with her, but instead would enjoy making him the center of attention between she and I, with the joy of watching the two of them together as he pleases her. For some reason many in swing have the mindset that the women have to play with each other. Even if she is a beautiful bi play woman, quite often I would like to exclude the bi play between us for multiple reasons.

 

If your friend IS comfortable exploring swing there is room for her in the lifestyle with single men, married men playing separately with permission or as a third partner in a light friendship or one night stand...IMHO

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Going back in the 80’s a retired mate of mine who lived alone came up with the idea of getting a small group of guys together and advertising in a local sex contact magazine that we were up for gangbangs with couples or single women, we ended up with 7 guys on the books on call. We drew up a rough set of rules to use as a guide line EG if a guy wanted to book us for his wife we had to speak to the wife to be sure she know what was going on, and NO was a positive NO at any time from either the husband or wife “woman”, we did not want to get involved in any rape claims.

Most calls we got were from guys wanting to bring their woman along for gangbangs, but we did get some single women come along, one of the single women ended up marrying one of the single guys from the group, the wife and I ended up being real good swinging friends with them, to the extent that when he got sick (cancer) he got us to take his wife under our wing and look after her which we did, we would take her along with us with another guy we were playing with to meet other swinging couples and also when we had a M F M threesome set up we would often bring her along making it a M F M F foursome and a lot of fun was had by all, she even continued playing with us after her husband passed away, we had a good thing going there.

The funniest of the lot were guys who bought their woman along and when they seen their woman having a real good time with the guys could not handle it one of the guys ended up calling his wife a slut because of what she was up to with all the guys and took her home, we called it the “talk all week to get their woman to attend and all night to get her to go home syndrome” one of the women actually called back and booked a session with us without her husband knowing about it. We could sense the different reasons most people were doing it, some took it as an easy way to enter into swinging or at least getting the woman to play with other guys, others were trying to hold a marriage together, they each had their own reasons and we were not their to pass judgment!

We had one couple that turned up that were married, “but not to each other”, they just wanted a bit of verity in there already unusual sex life, and I suspect a cheap place to play.

There is still a group doing something similar in Sydney these days, they call their selves Troops but they are a lot more up market than we ever were, but it was a lot of fun.

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Nothing really new to add here, just to concur with all that say being straight should not be an impediment for a female in the lifestyle.

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