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First night out--what to wear, what to say, common questions!

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Hubby and I are headed to our first club. This will be our first experience. I'm so nervous! What to wear, what to talk about, how to start conversations, and everything in between!! Wish us luck!! And any advice is welcome!

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Relax, go out with no expectations but knowledge of each others rules and boundaries, and have fun. :) I hope you come back and let us know how everything went!

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Don't let your nerves get the better of you. Enjoy the experience and let us know how it went.

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How exciting! Our advice is to just go with no expectations other than having a fun evening out together. Do that, and you can't go wrong.

 

Beyond that, I'd say try to get there on the early side so you have time to get settled in and comfortable before it starts to get crowded and the intensity picks up. You might check if a club tour or welcoming orientation is offered by the host/hostess. Once it gets busy, they have a thousand other things to try to keep up with so don't have time for that, but if you get there early and ask, they probably can give you some individualized attention to help you get settled in and comfortable.

 

Yes, please come back and let us know how it went!

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Hey guys! Sounds like you found a club that is close enough to you two. My advice on dress is for her to dress as sexy as you dare to leave the house in, and for him to dress classy. Do you know whether the club has a theme going on the night you're going to be there? If so, dressing in line with the theme can't hurt.

 

Conversation-wise, it doesn't hurt to kick things off by letting your new friends know that you are newbies, and asking for their advice on how to enjoy the club experience. That question is certainly getting you some conversation here, and it will probably work in person, too!

 

As others have said, I believe you should go in with no expectations of any swinging happening. In our experience, it's not at all easy to go into a club "cold" and make a connection that leads to any swinging activity. Perhaps you two could just count on playing with each other, and head to the playrooms at some point to have some fun that way. Depending on what's available at the club, and your own comfort levels, you may want to try playing with each other in a group room with other couples present, or in a room by yourselves with a window so that others can watch you. That would be a no-expectations way of having an adventure on your first time out, without counting on finding just the right newbie-friendly couple to play with (which would likely be an iffy proposition at best).

 

I hope you have a good time- let us know what happens!

 

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That's awesome to hear, glad you had such great time! Even never having been to that club, I can predict the type of people you met, and that's because we've found that swingers are a great bunch of people, wherever you go.

 

I think the swinger population just increased by two, welcome aboard :)

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Hey, that's really great to hear! Glad you two had a good time on your first time out.

 

So, when are you going to have your "second time out"?

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Looking at a partial hotel takeover in Greensboro NC next month!

 

Did you go? If so, how did it work out?

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We had a great time. I have found that those darn swingers are just all around good people lol!!! Yep, we are in!!!

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I'm glad to hear that your first experiences were as good as ours were! It may occasionally not work out quite as well, but you are fortified now by knowing that the vast majority of lifestyle people are cool and fun.

 

Don't forget, we'd still love to meet you guys in person if you ever get up this way!

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At our local club, they have an intro dance for the ladies during which we typically bare our breasts. I have a short little mini that, quite by accident, I learned allow me to drop it down enough to let the girls out but allows the shoulder straps to stay put and actually accent the size of the breasts. I tend to wear it and one other that does the same type of thing for Swinger Clubs and such places (Garden of Eden in Key West) where I might be taking the girls out.

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