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View Poll Results: What info do you ALWAYS get?

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  • We Always get their First Names

    24 31.58%
  • We Always get First & Last Names

    2 2.63%
  • We Always get contact information.

    16 21.05%
  • We don't ALWAYS do anything.

    34 44.74%
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    Default How much info do you get before you play with someone?

    Another thread (and some comments there) got me wondering. How much info do you get from people that you play with? Do you ALWAYS get their full name? Or even just their first? Do you go beyond that and get their address?

    What are your reasons for getting the information that you do get? Or for not getting anymore than you do?
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    I figure most information I collect or reveal is on a need to know basis. It's nice to have each other's cell phone numbers to confirm meeting times, or in case something comes up. Generally last names will come up in conversation, or are on email accounts (although I use a pseudonym for my Yahoo account that I use for swinging.
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    We generally get first names and contact information. Over time, if we continue to see the people, we will usually get last names. Sometimes we happen across their last names because they have it on their email address, other times, they just volunteer it. Neither our first or last name is on our email, so we have to either volunteer it or be asked for it. When we introduce ourselves, it is with our first names only, and that's what we usually get from others as well.

    I personally agree that more information other than first names and contact info is on a "need to know" basis.
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    I am happy to have your first name.. . I don't need last names. I would like to have contact information incase we want to meet again...but other than that a first name is good for me.
    "Well! Evil to some is always good to others." - Jane Austen

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    Default Re: How much info do you get?

    Since most of our play has taken place at the clubs, we would be in the "We don't ALWAYS do anything." category. If we have a good time with a couple and decide we would like to get together with them outside the club we will usually get some contact information, but that doesn't always happen.
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    We'll always know first names before playing (well, most of the time anyway ) and if we like them we'll get contact info as well. Sometimes we forget the contact info though, makes things tough lol

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    Most of the time we get first names.

    There are very few people that we know their last names, or they know ours...the ones that do, also know where we live, phone number and quite a bit about out lives, as we do their's, but...it took knowing them for a while before any of this information was passed on.

    About 95% of the time if we have played with someone, we have contact information, usually an e-mail addy and/or a cell number in case we want to keep in touch and play again.

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    Default Re: How much info do you get?

    I like require two forms of ID, three written references and their last four pay stubs.




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    Default Re: How much info do you get?

    First names usually come out early in a conversation... Other than that, we don't ask for much.

    Like Good Times, most our play is at the club, so if we get any more than that, it is at the end of the night and it means we liked you

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    If a potential playmate immediately gives us full names and contact information, a red flag goes up. If they are willing to expose their own privacy that quickly, we question their ability to be discrete when it comes to us.

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    We don't always do anything. We have some playmates that we know everything about (full name, birthday, address, etc.) and other that we never even knew their first name. If we meet someone online we try to give and get a cell number just in case. If we play with someone in the club and would like to hook up again we will try to exchange cells and/or emails.

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    We try to get enough info so we don't embarrass ourselves with them.....like their first names But the times we've ended up in an after-party suite when there's numorous couples there ......that hasn't been the case


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    Default Re: How much info do you get?

    We were about to answer that we always get their first names, but then we realized that in certain group situations (most recently at this year's Lifestyles West Convention in Las Vegas) we sometimes don't get that information.

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    Default Re: How much info do you get before you play with someone?

    We usually get first names as we're introducing ourselves, but I don't always remember them! And one time a knight in shining armor came up and saved me from bad sex---I didn't learn his name until a couple months after the incident.

    I'll give out my "alternative" email, or request theirs if we like them.

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    Default Re: How much info do you get before you play with someone?

    Quote Originally Posted by screaminggood View Post
    We usually get first names as we're introducing ourselves, but I don't always remember them! ....
    I'll give out my "alternative" email, or request theirs if we like them.
    We are in that boat! if its a party situation, we do tend to email or even chat a bit before we meet normaly, which is when we would get some sort of contact info, the email and chats happen as like a few of us, we have kids! older one and we have to plan things ahead most of the time to keep things discreet.
    I don't speak or write proper english however, I do use fluent American Ease to its foremost!

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    Yes, my kids think my alternative email address is my "shopping" address that attracts the spam from my regular address. I have to be careful as my eldest is at the age to want to explore the sex-net himself!

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    Default Re: How much info do you get before you play with someone?

    Am a lil lucky on the sexnet part as the school district we are in supply laptops to all students, so they are locked up as to whats allowable and get scanned every time they walk through the school door to insure propper use, locked so tight we can't even add a printer so the poor kid can print at home lol....as for the Alt addie, yep thats pretty much what we have going
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    Default Re: How much info do you get before you play with someone?

    We nearly always get contact information. Maybe how much information people get has a lot to do with the way they choose to play?

    If people usually play at parties or clubs, they might only exchange first names. We almost always meet people online, so before we meet we know their first names, cell number, and email address and/or profile. A profile can provide a lot of information (in the narrative and between the lines) and it lets you know how they want to be perceived. We pretty much always talk on the phone before we meet, too.

    What are your reasons for getting the information that you do get? Or for not getting anymore than you do?
    Our goal is to meet people we are attracted to, and have some hope of feeling chemistry together. What takes about two minutes to find out in a club is much more challenging to learn via the internet. A lot of the couples we meet live far away...

    Our style tends towards long-distance friends-with-benefits connections. We meet a lot of couples who are visiting the coast from other parts of California. Even though we might only see someone every few months, once we've made a connection we tend to see them again and again. The friendships center around weekend getaways and lots of play-time, but we choose people because we enjoy their company -and usually also go to dinner, walk at the beach, go dancing, etc.

    Sometimes we envy those of you who have a good club nearby, because of course food & dancing and socializing & flirting is part of the fun every time you go. It would be great to be able to suggest new-to-us couples meet us at a club. It would be easier to be very casual about who we meet. As it is, we feel like we need to be very selective, because it takes a lot of effort to get together. Because of that we usually exchange a lot of information before we meet.
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    Default Re: How much info do you get before you play with someone?

    Yes we usually try to get first names. We may not always remember them, but we do try. We will also ask if they are members of sls so we can find out what they are and are not into. We will also try to find this out during the first meet up or at the house party we are attending. Other than that, we don't ask too much about anything else.

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    Default Re: How much info do you get before you play with someone?

    It depends. Many -- perhaps most -- of our playmates are spontaneous pickups with no names, no intro, just sex. If the sex is good, we may exchange contact info, our "play" address (after we've said thanks, of course). Most folks we've played with on multiple occasions know our first names. A few have become friends and know a lot more about us.

    For folks we meet on line, though, we'd like to know a little more before we meet them. Since we can't judge their vibes as readily via email, we like to know where they heard about us, a little about what kind(s) of fun they're looking for, and when they're available to play. This lets us quickly rule out the pic collectors, folks who just want hot emails to masturbate to, and wanna-bes who aren't really going to meet us for fun. If email vibe is right, the flavors they're interested in are aligned with ours, and they're able to play when we are, we're good to go. Sometimes we know a name; sometimes not.

    So, we know this is backwards than what many couples here do. But it works well for us.

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    Default Re: How much info do you get before you play with someone?

    We meet mostly in vanilla settings and meet&greets. By the time we actually meet, we'll already have exchanged first names & cell phone numbers so that either of us can get in touch if something messes up the meeting.

    Beyond that, we like to have a friendly 'get-to-know-you' chat at first, just as if you were sitting down with somebody whose pants you didn't want to get into. We talk in general terms about family, where we live, hobbies, etc. We're just real people who are looking for real people to play with.

    Eventually, we'll discuss how long we've been "doing this" and maybe touch lightly on some of the things we enjoy in an intimate setting.

    That's about it.

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