At what point you realized you were a swinger?

At what point did you realize you were a swinger?

The Mrs. and I realized that we wanted to be swingers when we saw a TV show about swinging, and talked over the possibilities of giving it a try ourselves.

We realized that we were swingers, officially, when we had our first play date!

Guess it was we we found our self's talking about it on the Oprah show. LOL

Elementary school...I spent hours on the swings.

I think I first connected my feelings of non-monogamy with the word swinging when I first started doing some online research about it. My wife and I had never considered ourselves to be monogamous. We had played briefly with a younger couple who identified as polyamorous and shortly after we'd parted ways with them, I'd heard a radio new story which touched on swinging. So, I looked it up online and, after reading a lot, my wife and I agreed that this might be something for us to consider.

It was 1986 when a nudist couple we had become very close friends with seduced us. They were our best friends and I had always lusted after her. It was an amazing introduction to non-monogamy and changed our whole life for the better. They split up but we have remained close friends with both of them and have continued to play with him.

Now we had swapped with five couples years before but I didn't think of us as 'swingers' until years later when started playing, online, with other couples.

There were tiny steps before this but the real realization was when another couple approached us with swinging, and stated she was bi, he was not. In the ensuing discussion between hubby and I (then BF), I heard myself blurting out, I would have no problem with doing the two of you but I’ve never even thought of doing anything bi. I thought, ok, you’re a swinger or willing to be, you just have to decide if you’re going to start with strawberry, vanilla or .....

Guess it was we we found our self's talking about it on the Oprah show. LOL

We had talked about swinging with another couple and it happened one night with some close friends. We have never looked back and enjoy the life style.

Although there was a big lead up to it where we were interested in it and trying to find our way making it happen I don't really think I thought of us as swingers until our first full swap with another couple! The next day when we had time to reflect on the out of the world experiences we had the night before we were like hell ya we are here and want to stay.

We did have a threesome with another woman before that full swap, but for whatever reason I never felt like we were swinging at the time.

Double post!

About one year after we saw this television programme. It's been a journey.

Always good to know that we contributed to other jumping on board.