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So I am a 21[M], and I have been reading a lot about it lately and I've got interested in it. But had some doubts, because our age (gf 20[F]). We are in a 2 year relationship by now and tried many things. Are we too young for this? Since there will be older people (not very old btw)?

 

The other thing is that I don't know how to put this talk to her (like, how to introduce the subject). We had already talked about other fantasies and had no problem trying them, she reacted fine, but this is different. She is jealous sometimes, I am too but my trust and confidence is bigger. She is attached to me, but not in an overattached way, but always says that I am her's. I think this maybe be a good try and good experiences before marriage, because neither me or she had much partners or sexual experiences. The biggest problem is how to introduce it to her, and I'm afraid of her reaction.

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Personally, I think 20 and 21 is way too young. I never could have been in a non-monogamous committed relationship at that stage of my life.

 

I'm not sure what your laws are in Brazil, but here in the US you must be 21 to go to any of the swing clubs I'm aware of.

 

I think you might find it difficult to find swing partners your age, around here most couples have been married for 10 or more years and are typically in the 35-65 age range. Most are looking for friends with similar life experience.

 

Your relationship is new and there are many things for the two of you two explore without introducing other partners. Enjoy each other and your youth.

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Successfully swinging as a couple requires a skill set that most people not only don't have as individuals at your age, but also don't have as a couple yet. I'm sure there are some who could do it, but I know that we certainly wouldn't have been ready when we where at where you are now.

 

There is no hurry in life, if the interest in swinging remains, there are many years ahead of you as a couple to incorporate it into your relationship at some point when the time is right.

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Being twenty-one years of age, you should fear her reaction. And you should be wary of your own reactions as well.

 

I wish for many things but I never wish that I could be twenty-one years of age again. I was so full of piss, vinegar, rage, jealousy, envy, and envy. When not directed carefully it tended to explode in my face.

 

Solidify your relationship; only after that is an accomplished fact should you consider swing.

I agree completely. There's no rush! My husband and I are just now setting up some girl/girl play with another couple (boys will keep to their own ladies) and the fantasy was introduced into our relationship like 5 years ago. Thankfully I was wise enough then to honor where I knew I was in the relationship at that time (not nearly secure enough), it could have been disastrous at that time. (And oh gosh if I had done it in my early 20's??? I can't imagine how awful that aftermath would have been emotionally). It's only now that we have been together for 7 years, married for 4, and really secure, open, and trusting in our relationship that we both feel 100% confident in exploring this.

 

Bottom line: there's no rush! Take your time, grow in your relationship. The option of a threesome will always be there when you're (both) truly ready

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:ditto:

 

We agree with everything said above. It doesn't mean that you won't be successful if you do try it, just that the odds are really against you. Take your time. You want to save SOMETHING to look forward to in the future :lol:

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So I am a 21[M], and I have been reading a lot about it lately and I've got interested in it. But had some doubts, because our age (gf 20[F]). We are in a 2 year relationship by now and tried many things. Are we too young for this? Since there will be older people (not very old btw)?

 

I do know some younger couples who can successfully manage non-monogamous relationships. So, it is possible.

 

However...

 

She is jealous sometimes, I am too but my trust and confidence is bigger.

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The biggest problem is how to introduce it to her, and I'm afraid of her reaction.

 

These two comments lead me to believe that you are right to question your own readiness.

 

First, to be successful in swinging, you need to be secure in your own relationship. Feels of jealousy often result from feelings of insecurity.

 

Second, to be successful in swinging, you must be able to communicate. If you aren't comfortable introducing the topic of swinging, how comfortable will you be asking her how much she obviously enjoyed being wildly fucked by another man? (Btw, think a moment about your first emotional reaction to that phrase.)

 

When you can comfortably have a conversation about the idea of swinging, while fully dressed and sitting at the dinner table, than I suggest talking about the idea further.

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