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My boyfriend and I are new to the swingers scene. We are not sure we actually want to swap partners but are looking to explore within our relationship. What is the best way that someone would get started? Thank you for the advise.

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WELCOME, new member, fctyspn0. I think that the advice that I typically give to people just starting will fit your case. Go out to see and be seen. Meet people at organized swinger meet-n-greet events. Or go to a swingers' club party. At a party like this, swapping is not required. OK if you just want to talk to people. You still get a friendly reception.

 

~Michael

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I agree with SW_PA_Couple. I would say you may want to attend a local club if there is one. Mingle, flirt and take it all in. I guarantee, you'll have amazing sex with each other that night.

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Hello, fctyson0, and welcome to SwingersBoard!

 

The first thing I recommend is to poke around here in the forums, and ask more questions if you have any. It may help you two to learn more about the way swinging works, and some different ways the people in "the lifestyle" enjoy each other. It's not just about swapping partners; there are other ways the people have fun in the lifestyle that are short of swapping partners for sex.

 

I agree with the others who recommend getting out there and meeting some swingers. You may find it easier to find people to meet if you start by joining one of the swinger "dating" sites, like SLS, SDC, APG, Kasidie, or Quiver. You and your boyfriend could write up a profile that tells a little about you both, and gives people an idea of what you are looking for. You can also indicate that you are not sure you want to swap partners. If you're interested in meeting individual couples, for dinner or drinks and conversation, be sure to mention that. Also, if you include a picture or two of the two,of you (faces are not required), you are more likely to be contacted by other couples.

 

Another reason to create a profile on one of the other sites is that you will be able to look up lifestyle groups and events on the site. For example, SLS has many groups that hold regular meet and greets at local bars or restaurants. These are low-pressure events, where you can meet lifestyle couples with no pressure to do anything beyond talking. If you are interested in checking out a local lifestyle club, and don't know where to find them, you can also find out about clubs.

 

Good luck!

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All of the above is great advice, so I'll just say Welcome to the Swingers Board! We're glad to have you here with us, and we hope you find the site to be both fun and informative.

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First make sure that your relationship is rock solid. Swinging can take a great relationship and make it unbelievable but it can also destroy a weak one. Love, trust, communication: make sure you have an abundance of all three. Then set up a profile online somewhere. Either start looking at other profiles or attend a club or meet-and-greet. Find another couple, talk a bit and see where it goes from there. Finally, report back here. Good luck!

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