Finding others - wondering what now?

So my girlfriend and I have progressively been trying new things and have just come to the conclusion we would like to swing with another couple. We are wondering where should we go to find like minded couples? What is the proper way to go about this as we are very respectful and want to make sure we respect other couples and not offend. We are fun loving and want to share that with like minded individuals. Any information would be great. We thank you in advance.

There a generally speaking three options,

Find another couple like yourselves that your trust enough to expose this too and see if they are interested through your already existing circle of friends ( tough one, I will admit ).

Post ads on lifestyle websites online, go to the swinging online forums and read the old posts there.

Finally go to Swinger Clubs, Parties, Resorts, and Cruises to introduce yourselves directly. You can find that forum at the link as well.

Good luck and have fun!!

I think the personal ad sites like SLS or whichever one has a strong presence in your area is almost always a part of getting started. Just working through the process of setting up your profile will be a good thing to do together. Even if after a little trial period you find the online personals route isn't for you (it can and does work, but it takes some effort to really make it work well), then having an account on one of the online sites will help in finding the other main path open to you and that's clubs and parties. The big on-premise clubs aren't that hard to find since they will have their own online presence, but if you aren't fortunate to live close to one of those, then smaller off-premise events will probably be what you attend most and those smaller groups often list their events on the personals sites like SLS.

Swinging can start to feel like work sometimes, but when you do find that compatible couple and the chemistry burns hot, then it's all worth it

I agree with those who recommend that you set yourselves up with a profile on one of the swinger "dating" or "hookup" sites. There are many to choose from, but in your area I know that SLS has lots of members. You can even join for free if you like (with some limits on what you can do). As cplnuswing mentioned, an account on SLS not only gets you the chance to browse couples' profiles, and send and receive notes from other swingers near you, it also has various groups that might hold meet and greets in your area. Moreover, it has a listing of clubs near you, and a way for your fellow SLS members to indicate when they're going to a particular club on a particular night, so you can check out the profiles of people you might meet at the club.

If you set up a profile, here are a couple of quick tips. Make it interesting, and let some of your personality show through. Also, be sure to indicate what you are after (soft swap, full swap, no-swap/same-room, handcuffs and horse whips, whatever!), significant limits, and the fact hat you are new to the lifestyle. And be sure to include some picture so, preferably of both of you. The ones that are open to everybody do not need to have your faces showing if you don't want that, and you need not post any naughty/naked pictures. But I will tell you that profiles with pictures get a lot more attention!

Good luck, and do let us know how it's going!

We are from NJ like you. We have chosen to stay away from our area. We have only played with a couple we met on a vacation that doesn't live near us and a couple they know that lives near them. Maybe we are over cautious and not taking chances on being outed. The other side is if you are seen by someone you know, they have as much at stake as you. Our original adventure was not planned and after discussing we figure not to play where we eat. You may want to take that into account if you join a site.

I would recommend a good swing club. People are so friendly and it gives you so many options. This way there is no guess work, you see the people in person, not in photos.