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Back to original question, how common is woman woman contact in real life?

 

It really depends on the couple in question. Everyone has their own limits and their own things they like. My wife, for example, is pretty much straight. She doesn't mind if another woman touches her but she won't initiate and isn't really interested in touching another woman. This has not prevented us from having fun many swinging experiences.

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Fairly common, much more then man man contact. I would not go so far as calling it the norm (for instance, neither I, my wife or play partners are bisexual), but my estimate is >75% of the female swinging population, at least at my side of the globe.

 

As for your other questions, you have talked about your and your wife's limits. What about the limits of the possible partner(s) like this other couple? You find at least one rule silly, what if the other couple has such rule? Or only soft swap, no oral, no anal, etc. Would you decline? Or accept it is not 100% matching? Maybe good to discuss for you two too.

 

You also state "Full sex? We both agreed that is what swingers do" but I think that definition is not correct for everyone. And maybe including you two or four. Don't do things you think you are suppose to do, do what everyone is okay with.

 

And have fun. :)

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In our experience girl on girl play is pretty common, but it is also what we look for! Everyone chooses to live the lifestyle the way they want though so don't think you can say it is the norm. One thing we do notice online though is many people will have the woman listed as bi when she is really not. We will start talking to them only to find out she is not really into women and it ends up being a case of the husband wishing she was. A lot of the time the husband will want us to try and convince her to try it. That is a big no chance with us. Or another one we get is she is okay with you giving her oral, but will not in return. Another no thanks for us. This woman is really bi and only wants to play with other women that have the same wants and desires on an equal playing field. Not in the lifestyle to try and change others sexuality, but to enjoy her own. We really do wish people were just honest about their sexuality to save us the time of trying to figure it out. We would rather talk to couples that say their straight then ones that are not clear.

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I've always considered Woman - Woman contact pretty much the norm.

 

When I was about 16, a friend a few years older informed me that all women had "Latent Lesbian Instincts".

 

He took his words & wisdom from Desmond Morris's book "The Naked Ape",(1967).

 

With his 18 yr old wisdom he pointed out the compliments they gave each other about the way they complimented each others look & what they would wear, and physical contact, like stroking each others hair.

 

Pointed out these were all things that men didn't do, and besides, it said so in this book.

 

That concept stuck with me for life, in a positive way, and since we've been swinging I've been able to enjoy the sight of Mrs Z sharing female desires, one the best parts of the whole scene.

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