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Hi everyone!

 

We just wanted to share that yesterday, after months of thinking about it, I (Mr Lucasex) talked to a male friend about engaging in an MFM with us. I was so nervous!! He actually took it very well, and wants to give it some thought (we think it's going to be a yes, because he likes Mrs Lucasex very much). After our conversation I was so relieved that the earth did not open beneath my feet and that I could so openly talk to somebody about the actual possibility of having sex with us! We keep reading all the friendly advices that are published here, and have learned a lot, so hopefully we will have a good experience with him; anyway, it feels great to be closer to fulfilling our fantasy!.

 

If any of you can offer some extra advice, it will be greatly appreciated. We will let you know how it goes!

 

Cheers.

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Inviting a non swinger into the bed usually ends badly. Perhaps some background would help. Have you guys swung before? Are you sure the other guy won't get clingy after the sex, wanting to be touchy feely even if he is just over for a vanilla visit? Finally, make sure he can keep his pie hole shut. Don't want him talking to mutual friends about this.

 

Other than that, have fun. Make sure the wife has lots of orgasms.

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Hello Lucasex! That is how my Mr & I began our swinging lifestyle & it has turned out great. It took some experimenting & adjusting of our goals for the experience.

 

Our FWB is a very trusted friend of several years that I had always been flirty with but never crossed a line. Hubby explicitly trusts him with me. We had hoped for full on MFM playtimes but as FWB is Vanilla he just couldn't go the full distance in that situation. Well,he would lose his hard on whenever hubby came into the room. After a few attempts we finally talked it out & worked out what works for everyone. They will both soft play with me, hubby can have intercourse with me (we usually play at FWB's home) and I can go for one on ones with FWB when schedules allow. Hubby is really into that, even if hes waiting at home for me to go play. I come home to a really worked up horny hubby! So that is what works for us, its not what we hoped (was hoping for full mfm, dp, and such adventures ) but we are all comfortable with the arrangement.

 

I guess I'm just saying be ready for things to not be 100% what you expected, stay positive & flexible. I hope y'all have a great time! Be sure to report back on how it goes!

-She

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I can remember the first time I brought up to a friend of mine the idea of him having sex with my wife. My heart was pounding. It was going to be the end of a good relationship or the start of a great one. It ended up being the start of a great relationship.

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First of all, thank you all for your friendly advice. Second, no, GoldCoCouple those were not us!

 

Well... the answer finally was "no". It turned out he was more interested in a one-on-one with Mrs. Lucasex than in a threesome, and when she explained that this was for us (not only for her) and that the deal included me (Mr. Lucasex), he turned us down. He is ready to have sex with her, but not if there's another male in the room. No hard feelings (it feels good to know that she is so attractive to someone), but what a disappointment!

 

So... back to square one. Anyway, now that I already have asked somebody, I think I won´t be so anxious next time. We probably will look for experienced couples in our city to help us continue with this process.

 

Thanks again for all the comments. I'll post when the opportunity arrives!

 

Cheers!

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