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How do swinger orgies get going so quickly?

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I realize this doesn't happen at every single swinger gathering, but I really can't understand how it happens at all, at least, not this fast.

 

Reading one of my favorite books about the Lifestyle, A Modern Marriage, a memoir, the authors tell the stories of swinger orgies that just got going within a few minutes. Here's a couple of examples:

 

At a private party:

 

“Together Gabe and Liz unfurled not a biblical scroll, which I was half expecting, but a list of rules and regulations for the evening’s entertainment. Throw your used condoms in the garbage. No means no. The usual rigmarole...Then the recitation was over, Gabe blew a plastic whistle from around his neck—bleet!—and we were off and running.

I’d never seen anything like it. The suite went from fizzy cocktail party to near-orgy in about two minutes flat. ...people began nuzzling each other’s hair, unbuttoning buttons. Right off the bat, one couple astonished us with their sexual energy. They acted as though they hadn’t had chocolate in years and they’d suddenly been turned loose in a Hershey’s factory. They’d stroll up to a couple and put their arms around them and just start laughing and talking dirty like it was the most natural thing in the world to be standing there asking perfect strangers what sexual positions they favored. Talk about working a room. We watched as they took everyone’s sexual pulse, as it were, sussing out who looked like the best lay, who was into oral, and who preferred anal. They had it down to a science.”

 

 

Or this one (right after a Halloween costume contest at a club):

 

“...And then the contest dispersed and it was a free-for-all as everyone made for the locker room to shuck their clothes...As if a gunshot had started a race, everyone was going for it at once. People were having sex everywhere: on the carpet floor in the common space outside the locker room, in the hallway sprawled over couches. The room with wall-to-wall air mattresses was wall-to-wall bodies. Before long women began climaxing from every corner, whinnying like wild horses...."Obviously, not a lot of time (if any) was devoted to couples getting to know each other, see if the chemistry is there, etc.

 

That said, how could orgies like these possibly get up and running so fast?

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In my experience with orgies, they usually start out kinda slow. Typically there is the initial hanging out and socializing part of the night, followed by one couple with exhibitionist tendencies (in our case usually my wife and I) starting to get frisky and inviting others to join in. Once that ice is broken, so to speak, things can start rolling fairly quickly... and that's just the human herd at work, once someone leads the way others will follow.

 

About our experience as well, really with any kind of sex. That being said, things really do have a tipping point where all the clothes are off and everything is happening at once. I think it's because of less trepidation. We all know what our common bond is.

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The faster you can get people naked, the faster the orgy starts.

 

Been to some that were very fast cuz people got naked for pool or jacuzzi fast.

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I think the first thing to remember is that no type of story contains more creative fiction than a memoir. :lol: Any good author, even one supposedly telling a true story, skips over the boring parts to get to what the reader wants to hear.

 

In my experience with orgies, they usually start out kinda slow. Typically there is the initial hanging out and socializing part of the night, followed by one couple with exhibitionist tendencies (in our case usually my wife and I) starting to get frisky and inviting others to join in. Once that ice is broken, so to speak, things can start rolling fairly quickly... and that's just the human herd at work, once someone leads the way others will follow.

 

Actually, a lot of online reviewers griped about this particular memoir not being "salacious" enough. It was written to be informative, and not so much to titillate. Anyone who just wants to read erotica and doesn't want to learn anything won't much like this book.

 

I thought orgies would have to start out slow, also. People would want to socialize first. But that didn't seem to be the case with the two orgies described.

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I think that if the attendees are familiar with one another and the clothes fly early, an orgy could spontaneously erupt very quickly. It just takes one couple making out or getting it on to create an atmosphere of openness and then it's game on.

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I think that if the attendees are familiar with one another and the clothes fly early, an orgy could spontaneously erupt very quickly. It just takes one couple making out or getting it on to create an atmosphere of openness and then it's game on.

 

We did that at some parties. One we often went to people stayed dressed and seemed to take forever....so we would get there, change into sexy clothes, have a drink the get on the stairs and start.

 

The hosts loved it cuz it got the party started before midnite :lol:

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We did that at some parties. One we often went to people stayed dressed and seemed to take forever....so we would get there, change into sexy clothes, have a drink the get on the stairs and start.

 

The hosts loved it cuz it got the party started before midnite :lol:

 

How did people keep from crashing into each other? Like if two women went towards the same man and accidentally conked themselves cold when they ran into each other on their way to him?

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Now it is getting really silly in my humble opinion.

 

Sorry, but some of us have never been to a swingers' orgy, so we have to ask these things.

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Sorry, did not realise you really think it can be a orgy stampede of mindless zombie women with bad eye sight and bad coordination skills.

 

So to answer your question: because they are aware they are not alone. Just like in the supermarket, at a train station or on the sidewalk.

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How did people keep from crashing into each other? Like if two women went towards the same man and accidentally conked themselves cold when they ran into each other on their way to him?

 

Everyone wears helmets :D

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Back in the day when people used to get together to play cards (bridge...I remember it from my childhood and my parents having friends over for this), they would show up, say hello and talk for a few minutes and then sit down and start playing. All too often it seems like this DOESN"T happen at house parties but some times it does (depending on the people attending and running the event). People should show up, chat for a few, and then get down to starting the game (lol).

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Sorry, but some of us have never been to a swingers' orgy, so we have to ask these things.

Dude, you gotz to get a woman and do some field research.

 

IMHO, the party depends on the mix of folks attending and flow of events. Me and Red once attended a hotel party that seemed to be progressing well into orgy status until this open minded but non-swinging female henna artist showed up late. As in henna that brown ink stuff Indians from India use to paint symbols on their hands/feet/bodies. She was supposed to have been there like two hours earlier to paint bodies help get people in the mood. So we have to clear a bed, turn some bright lights on over it for her to paint a couple of peoples arms, legs, and tits. It totally killed an hour in the middle of the scene though I think I remember that Red and another lady had some productive female-only time in the suites bathroom while I watched the henna lady paint stuff on people. Once the henna lady split the party did finally evolve into a near orgy but probably not as much as it would have without the interruption.

(This was not our hosted party.)

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The timing of an orgy is important. My hubby and I sometimes like to get the feel of couples one on one first, but those like us that throw pool parties and have a group room, find that the more hard and wet bodies that come out of our pool can add to our room staying full

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Once the starters gun goes off so do all the clothes.

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The Mrs. and I once went to a house party that was, in effect, an "after party" following an afternoon-long meet-and-greet at a winery. Everyone had spent the whole afternoon sipping wine and flirting (as much as could be done in a public setting, with dogs and kids running around). So there was quite a bit of sexual tension built up by the time we got to this house party. It took about three minutes before everybody was naked and groping at each other!

 

Another occasion where we witnessed such a buildup was on a swinger cruise we took last year. Many people had been looking forward to this cruise for months, and had been flirting online with people they hoped to meet in person. When we finally met onboard, the desire had built up to the point that about eight or 10 of us piled into one of the couple's cabin, where we had a nice group play session- before leaving US territorial waters!

 

These were not quite a full-on orgies in the sense of everybody in one big pile, if that is the constraint on our researcher's original question. But there were several clusters of group play that broke out on these occasions, along with the one-on-one play. My main point in bringing them up is that the buildup of sexual tension before the event can be one trigger for a fast start by the participants.

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