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I really do hate answering a question with another question, so I would say in answer to your question, I would suggest you hire a male escort since money will be involved in said transaction.

 

Now my question to you is this; does your wife actually want to be seduced by another man, or is this something you want for her?

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I really do hate answering a question with another question, so I would say in answer to your question, I would suggest you hire a male escort since money will be involved in said transaction.

 

Now my question to you is this; does your wife actually want to be seduced by another man, or is this something you want for her?

 

she does not like it.

 

but in a certain situation, you never know.

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Just curious here, have you thought this through? Seems to us that if she's not into it that it could end disastrously. Seems both dishonest and deceptive to go about it that way. Maybe try telling her your into seeing her pleasured by another man if that's your fantasy and let her simmer on the thought for a while. Who knows, she may get more turned on by the idea than you think after time to ponder it. Try introducing porn with multiple males on one woman and see if that doesn't rev her up a little to the idea. Something else to consider is that she may never be interested in that, and if you need to drop it entirely. Is it worth losing the relationship to you? Seems that there is a lot that needs discussed and fully considered before any actions are taken. Not trying to be a dick, but your current plan just seems wrong. If there is more to the story please fill us in so that maybe you can get better advice.

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Seems like you're more in love with an idea, than with your wife ... easy to be judgemental of course, but this seems crazy ...

 

This is probably me reacting to other stuff going on in my life at the moment too, but I am fed up of people getting so obsessed with an idea in life that they don't seem to care about damaging innocent bystanders in the process ... people they supposedly "love".

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Ah. This reminds me of the "gentleman" on a local site who kept asking us (and everyone else we knew) to play along with his scenario of meeting them (by "accident") in a bar, and persuading her to have a 4-way, probably with the addition of liberal amounts of alcohol to get her there. I don't know HOW many times we ended up blocking him and reporting him to admin, and he kept creating new profiles and changing his location because he thought that somehow he and his pathetic ploy wouldn't be recognized. I think that once I actually responded to him and told him that tricking his wife into something she wouldn't agree to otherwise was NOT COOL. And I say the same to you.

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Do we still have mods on this board? I can't believe this thread is tolerated here, it has nothing to do with swinging and everything to do with coercion...not what I come here for.

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True, but it deserves discussion and the OP (or others) may learn something from the comments posted here. While we may not agree with his tactics, all ideas are welcome here and able to be freely commented upon. To not allow the topic would be censorship - escorts and such are often discussed here, why is this thread any different?

 

Discussion is one thing, this is outright solicitation.....

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Maybe it's not what it sounds like, it does however sound bad. Hopefully the OP reads the above responses and expounds a little more. Our first thoughts were negative, then after pondering it for a minute we thought we'd give the benefit of the doubt and see if there is more to the story. Once we know the whole story we can either give good sound advice or continue explaining to him that It's dead wrong to continue down his original path. Hopefully it's not what it seems upon first impression.

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Maybe it's not what it sounds like, it does however sound bad. Hopefully the OP reads the above responses and expounds a little more. Our first thoughts were negative, then after pondering it for a minute we thought we'd give the benefit of the doubt and see if there is more to the story. Once we know the whole story we can either give good sound advice or continue explaining to him that It's dead wrong to continue down his original path. Hopefully it's not what it seems upon first impression.

 

He wants to hire someone as a male prostitute to have sex with his wife and "she does not like it." I really don't see any ambiguity. Reported to mods.

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He wants to hire someone as a male prostitute to have sex with his wife and "she does not like it." I really don't see any ambiguity. Reported to mods.

 

That's how I interpreted it also..if that is anybody's interpretation of what the lifestyle is about around here, I need to find another hangout, cause it sure ain't mine..........

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Just attempting to stay optimistic. Agree that it does sound as though it is as bad as it sounds.

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I would chalk this thread up to a common, run-of-the-mill internet troll. Doesn't understand what this site is, nor does he care about anything except his current wank.

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I would chalk this thread up to a common, run-of-the-mill internet troll. Doesn't understand what this site is, nor does he care about anything except his current wank.

 

After seeing his other thread we have to agree.

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she does not like it.

 

but in a certain situation, you never know.

 

Ugh, I think I just threw up in my mouth a little. Well good luck with that. 'Cause, you know, it's all about what you want, right? Or rather, wishing luck to the lady in question.

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I'm going to respond to this for the benefit of the OP as well as any other readers who think this is a way to start "swinging" with their wife. (Hint for those who don't get it...this route is not swinging and will be detrimental to the relationship.)

 

Sensualbicouple said:
I really do hate answering a question with another question, so I would say in answer to your question, I would suggest you hire a male escort since money will be involved in said transaction.

 

Now my question to you is this; does your wife actually want to be seduced by another man, or is this something you want for her?

 

rocketboy said:
she does not like it.

 

but in a certain situation, you never know.

 

Let's see...combine the fact that she doesn't like the idea of being seduced by another man and you want to convince her to have sex with another man proves that you aren't thinking about her but only about yourself. You are turned on by this...she is not. If you really love your wife, why would you want to force something that she is not interested in and doesn't like? Would you force her to choke down sushi if she doesn't like it? How do you think forcing this sort of thing on her would make her feel?

 

Oh, wait. Don't tell me--you'll do it in such a way that she doesn't know that you set it up. Well, gosh...that's being deceptive, manipulative, and lying to your wife. Does that sound like something a great husband will do?

 

"But I'm doing it for her pleasure!" Are you? It's pleasurable for her to do something that she isn't interested in? Let's say you are successful in paying someone off to seduce her. What if she, being the great wife that she is, rejects the seducer. Does that mean that the seducer will force himself on her because he was paid? Then you just paid for your wife to be raped.

 

"What if she goes through with it and does get seduced by another man?" Then I can guarantee her that she'll feel like shit. She isn't mentally prepared for this. She will see it as cheating on you. She will hate herself for betraying you like that. Do you really want to induce mental anguish on your wife like that? If you don't tell her, she'll feel like shit. If you do tell her you paid for someone to do it, she'll hate you for it. Take your poison.

 

If I'm being harsh, it's because I'm deliberately doing so...and I try not to be that way often but it's very clear that this scenario is upsetting. I want it to be clear that this is not swinging nor should this be a way to "convince" a partner to swing (by the way, you should never convince a partner...they need to come to terms on wanting it on their own).

 

CB&DD said:
Maybe try telling her your into seeing her pleasured by another man if that's your fantasy and let her simmer on the thought for a while. Who knows, she may get more turned on by the idea than you think after time to ponder it. Try introducing porn with multiple males on one woman and see if that doesn't rev her up a little to the idea. Something else to consider is that she may never be interested in that, and if you need to drop it entirely. Is it worth losing the relationship to you? Seems that there is a lot that needs discussed and fully considered before any actions are taken.

 

CB&DD has some good advice. Take it slow. Communicate with her about your fantasies and her fantasies. Talk, think, talk some more. Talk about it outside of the bedroom. Talk about it while you're on the couch watching the news, over breakfast, etc. If it's just bedroom talk, it's not a true gauge of interest.

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she does not like it.

 

but in a certain situation, you never know.

 

Really hoping this is a troll post. If not, my deepest sympathy to your wife.

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Really hoping this is a troll post. If not, my deepest sympathy to your wife.

 

I agree, if this isn't a troll, it is mega-creepy.

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Tonight on 'Bad Idea" we have a special guest host...the divorce lawyer. Yeah , when she gets wind of this.....

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I am new to this so I think form fantasy to realty i may like it but you never know... I just need some help/advice.

 

After reading I see that swinging is not a fantasy fulfillment thing but a lifestyle.

 

I can't do that... I don't want it to be something we do with couples and establish relationships. But I can't help it... my body wants what it wants.

 

Every woman just like every guy when drunk at a bar sees something they like and it turns them on...it's a fact. Well, I want this to go a bit further. Maybe not a full on take her home thing but I want her to, I don't know, lose control and let lust take over.

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So this seems to end up like the scene in the movie Hitch where Hitch is talking to the stock broker guy. I think you've misunderstood what we do here exactly.

 

Swinging is not necessarily creating and keeping relationships between partners external to your marriage/partnership. You can practice the "hit it and quit it" mentality. Some of the members here are like that, and it's fine. What you are very unlikely to find here is anyone who advocates hiding things from your partner or manipulating them solely so you can get your rocks off.

 

As others have said, tricking your spouse into sleeping with someone else doesn't say much for your relationship, nor does it suggest your relationship will have any sort of longevity.

 

If that's what you want, good luck with it. But we reserve the right to say we told you so when it blows up in your face. :)

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