We've never had a swinging experience, but we've done FMF and BDSM (and I still can't decide if I'm sub or Domme ... sigh).
We took a break from that for a few years and have been talking lately about playing with others.
This time, I said, I am interested in having contact with another man (or even another woman; I'm game) while he plays with a lady who makes his toes curl. In the same room, of course. I quite like to watch him have fun; I prefer watching to participating in FMF with him.
What I'm working on is separating sex and love so the Crazy Slut inside may come out and play without any guilt ... and as little jealousy as possible. In the past, I've been known to be very territorial and insecure.
But that was before we were married. I'm much more confident now in the fact my husband loves me and doesn't want to go anywhere. Actually, I'm somewhat concerned HE might become the green-eyed monster now that we're married.
Any suggestions from the Old Hats would be much appreciated.