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I was thinking about how it's pretty much commonplace to see shaved (or at least very well trimmed) genitalia in both women and men in the lifestyle. I can't tell you the last time I saw a hairy bush (probably mine 15 years ago?).

 

That got me thinking, did you shave prior to swinging? would you still shave if you weren't swinging? For that matter, why do you shave?

 

I can't recall if I started shaving before or after I started swinging. I know the first time was when I was dating my now hubby (over 15 years ago) he shaved me as part of play one night. It was also the first time he ever went down on me (as the pubic hair was a huge turn-off for him towards the idea of "eating out"). I believe that after that I did at least start keeping it well trimmed, but I'm not sure I started shaving it right away. Over the years I've continued to keep it shaved just because now I hate the feeling when there is hair down there.

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Before, I shaved every so often which was whenever I felt like it. Now, only on the days before we go out.

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I shaved many years before getting into the lifestyle. Hubs only every once in a while if it bothered him or me.

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I've been shaving off and on for years. Just discovered "sugaring" for the nether regions and I love it! So much better than shaving. I also shave my arms. Mr. shaves his nether regions except for a small patch which I really like and pay a lot of attention to.

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I've been shaving off and on for years. Just discovered "sugaring" for the nether regions and I love it! So much better than shaving. I also shave my arms. Mr. shaves his nether regions except for a small patch which I really like and pay a lot of attention to.

 

Thanks for sharing the "sugaring" method! I had never heard of it and it sounds simple enough for me to try one day. :lol:

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I had to shave for a vasectomy many years before we started swinging. After that I kept it neatly trimmed and sometimes shaved. Now in swinging I shave

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I've always shaved since i was 15 ever since some guy went down on me for a few seconds then came back up with some hairs in his mouth, lol he was disgusted with me... he wouldn't have sex with me again until I had shaved.

 

Most men seem to prefer it that way, and i do feel better for it. Plus I've never had crabs so maybe that's a good thing about being shaved.

 

Husband usually keeps himself trimmed. He knows I won't give him a blowy if he lets it grow into a bush.

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Thanks for sharing the "sugaring" method! I had never heard of it and it sounds simple enough for me to try one day. :lol:

 

Sunbuckus, I have to warn you, it's not painless but less painful than getting waxed and more effective in my opinion. The more sessions I have the easier it gets. For me, well worth the money. I would recommend using Yelp in your area. Yelp and a Groupon got me started. :)

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I am exactly as I have been here for years. I do nothing different to swing.

 

My husband is a very oral guy and I keep just a patch for him. I have grown to like it that way.

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Male here. I shaved my pubic hair the first time when I was 12 or 13. I had already gone through puberty and just decided one day that it would feel neat to shave it all off. I was right, it did feel neat, but I let it grow back out mainly out of fear of someone seeing it in the swimming pool locker room.

 

Probably in the 80s, I started trimming my pubic hair. This was after our first swinging experience in the mid 80s. We had already been nudists for a little over 10 years by that time, and totally shaving off your pubic hair was not that common. Sometime in the late 90s, shaving became more common among nudists, so I started shaving my hair off completely and I have done it ever since. These days, the number of men and women who shave is probably greater than the number who go natural or just trim.

 

For me one of the great advantages of shaving is not getting pubic hair caught in my zipper, which can be quite a problem if you go commando as I often do.

 

My wife has gone trimmed for years and finally went to the fully shaved look a couple months ago. She had done it a few years before, but only for a short time.

 

I can't wait till we play with our best friend again. He has been totally shaved for a long time. When she was fully shaved a few years ago, he was so excited that he came as soon as the tip of his penis started to enter her, and he is someone who can normally go a very long time before cumming.

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I trim,but my wife had laser done a couple of yrs ago, and she's swears she'd do it again if it was necessary. nary a hair in two years ago.. Saves her about 30-45 min twice a month, so money well spent.

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I waxed every once in a while before getting into swinging. Now I do a somewhat seasonal thing: waxed and bald in spring/summer and trimmed in fall/winter. I would keep it bald all year long but for the pain of waxing and I don't like the shaving. Both hubby and I are actually looking into laser removal now.

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I'd done bikini waxes for years and started trimming the remainder very close when I started swinging. At the urging of my waxer, I did a Brazilian about three years ago and have kept it up and am still a little ambivalent about that. I don't actually like the look of bare pubes on me or anyone else, but the landing strip method has often left me with a little unevenness that drives me nuts, so I've been putting up with it. M. trims when he thinks of it or when I tell him the hair is starting to go up my nose at crucial moments. ;)

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I'm a trimmed up top and shaved below guy, because I'd look as goofy as a football bat totally shaved, and I'd maintain this look without swinging. I've grown accustomed to it.

 

Mrs two4you is one of the last swingers in the world that doesn't shave. She naturally has a lighter amount of pubic hair, and it hasn't appeared to be a big deal to anyone that we know of.

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I have shaved off and on for... well, about as long as I have been sexually active. When I don't shave, I keep it trimmed. I don't like the way it looks or feels when left completely alone.

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Yes. We did before we started swinging. We were not as diligent about it. Even if it totally smooth we did keep the hedges trimmed.

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Yes. Been shaving/trimming for years, even as a teenager. Was ashamed of doing it when I was young, being a male I used to think it might make me seem less masculine but I have always hated the way my chest hair grows in, plus it gets itchy if I let it go for much more than 10 a week. Have always shaved and trimmed down below too because I prefer the way it looks and feels. Glad there's devices like the Norelco bodygroomer that make trimming downstairs much easier now too!

 

Girlfriend waxes herself as it causes less irritation for her and lasts longer than shaving and she likes that the hair comes back thinner, but it does cost more and seems to take forever when she does it herself (can be a 3 or 4 hour ordeal!). She has done this since before swinging.

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Actually the only time we have shaved was mostly when we out of the LS and we will not do it just for that reason. To put in more detailed when we did shave it was mostly to trim as we've only went totally bare a few times and was never comfortable with it as it was too irritating and both of us are more turned on by pubic hair on women (and for her men). When we began our first foray into the LS we both were in the trimmed stage, but gradually let things go back to normal. We repeated that cycle after our initial break from the LS, till where it stands today back to as nature intended.

 

Frankly, it does not matter to us how others we may play with groom themselves, but as we both prefer to look like sexually mature adults most of time and it turns us on more if others are as well. Coming of age where everyone had body hair, we will never figure out this fear or disgust of the short & curleys that started with this generation to the point girls are waxing as soon as they hit puberty.

 

So basically, yes we would shave if we wasn't in the LS and may do it again now that were back in, the difference being either way it would be for us not to satisfy others. No one has every refused to play with us or been disgusted because of what we look like below the waist (in fact it was a plus for several since they could tell the wife was a natural blonde) and any one who made shaving a dealbreaker to meeting or playing with us would not be worth pursuing.

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Many forms of iterations on this one, (trim, smooth, patch, ect…) for both of us, but have to say all were present before swinging, and would remain if we were not.

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My wife saw this thread title over my shoulder, she said "yep". I know her well.

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We've been keeping ourselves trimmed long before we started playing. I found out quite a while ago that Tammy gets very horny after I tweeze her landing strip :D

 

I haven't seen my wifes pubic hair in maybe 14 years.

Chicup, that's nothing.......I've never seen it :sad:

 

Brett

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I trimmed closely long before the lifestyle, wife didn't. Back in the early 90s I was shaved for a hernia surgery, when it grew back it itched like crazy so I trimmed it way down, been doing that ever since. The first time my wife and I got together, she was a little freaked out when she saw me. She'd never seen anyone, male or female that did that.

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I've trimmed/shaved pretty much all my life...being Mediterranean I have long bushy hair and I just think it looks unsightly. Besides most all men know the less hair you have the bigger "IT" looks! LOL

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Well I'm 38 and I've been shaving down under since I was about 17. Way before I was even considering the LS. I'm just way more comfy and I feel a lot better by doing so.

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We were shaving before we got into the LS. DD bare since the 90s, I (CB) have been rocking the landing strip since about 2000. Just felt nice when I tried it and stuck with it.

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Both tried bold a year or two ago, just before we attended a Tantra course and really liked the feel so we kept it shaven. So it definitely has something to do with sharing our public regions with others, I presume.

 

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Nudists and shaving for many years before swinging. Appearance and hygiene.

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I have always tried to keep things 'trimmed and tidy' down 'there' and asked the Ms. to shave when we started dating. Now she waxes and I don't think she would stop unless I asked her to as she really enjoys the feeling and sexiness of being bare.

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Yes, I shaved before we began swinging. Swinging just made me realize that it wasn't just a kink with hubby but rather something many men like.

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Sorry, neither of us shave or trim. Hair is a signal of sexual maturity and that is hard-wired in my brain. I feel like a pervert if she is bald. Also, the stubble is really not a good texture for me.

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@Mimigirl - is there a kit to do sugaring at home? Is there one you would recommend? I have been waxing for a long time, way before becoming a nudist and before swinging. I have used the "hard" brazilian wax, which works fairly well for me, but is sometimes hard to find without going to the beauty supply. I've gone in a few times to a salon and end up going back over it again after, they don't do as good as I do on my own.

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Before swinging, she partially shaved and he had done it once or twice just to shake things up. A few years into swinging, we were both completely shaving. Her on a regular basis, him just trimming close unless we were going out, in which case shaving completely. A few more years into it, she waxes and would be pleased as punch to never have a hair down there every again, and he shaves fairly regularly whether we have any swingtime planned or not.

 

So yes, there has definitely been a change related to swinging. Swinging introduced the idea, and having tried it, we both just like it better this way.

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I (wifey) am another who shaved before swinging, I just love how much cleaner everything feels.

Hubby only started shaving once we started swinging though.

 

swingingforfun

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Male here. I shaved my pubic hair the first time when I was 12 or 13. I had already gone through puberty and just decided one day that it would feel neat to shave it all off. I was right, it did feel neat, but I let it grow back out mainly out of fear of someone seeing it in the swimming pool locker room.

 

Probably in the 80s, I started trimming my pubic hair. This was after our first swinging experience in the mid 80s. We had already been nudists for a little over 10 years by that time, and totally shaving off your pubic hair was not that common. Sometime in the late 90s, shaving became more common among nudists, so I started shaving my hair off completely and I have done it ever since. These days, the number of men and women who shave is probably greater than the number who go natural or just trim.

 

For me one of the great advantages of shaving is not getting pubic hair caught in my zipper, which can be quite a problem if you go commando as I often do.

 

My wife has gone trimmed for years and finally went to the fully shaved look a couple months ago. She had done it a few years before, but only for a short time.

 

I can't wait till we play with our best friend again. He has been totally shaved for a long time. When she was fully shaved a few years ago, he was so excited that he came as soon as the tip of his penis started to enter her, and he is someone who can normally go a very long time before cumming.

 

This is an update to the post I made in 2013. My wife and I are still both totally shaved and really enjoying it. Bill, the best friend I mentioned before, has played with us many times since that post and still really enjoys my wife and me being fully shaved.

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Hair down there is o.k. with me. No need to shave for me!

 

I totally understand shaving to look good in a bikini. Hair sticking out would look odd. I'll admit that seeing hair sticking out of her bikini would make me horny. ( that makes me a pervert?:))

 

I remember more than a few times having to remove hair from my mouth after going down. She was always recovering from an orgasm to notice. It never bothered me.

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Hubby loves my "manicured" triangle. I think it's staying either way.

Well-manicured sounds good to me. I like a trimmed bush on a woman- actually, these days it's a fun novelty to see any hair down there at all. A full thicket is a bit more of a challenge to navigate through, but I like the challenge!

 

As for me, I started shaving (patch and balls both) when we started swinging, and I plan to keep doing so. I want absolutely no disincentive for a woman to spend time down there!

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Sorry, neither of us shave or trim. Hair is a signal of sexual maturity and that is hard-wired in my brain. I feel like a pervert if she is bald. Also, the stubble is really not a good texture for me.

 

No kidding, Wornsilver! I feel the same way about a shaved one! Now forty or so years ago my wife tried shaving and neither of us really enjoyed the experience. In 2000, we were at Fantasy Fest in Key West and she asked if I'd like for her to shave. I think it might have been due to her attire for the event. I, honestly, told her I'd prefer she didn't and she didn't!

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Male here. I shaved my pubic hair the first time when I was 12 or 13. I had already gone through puberty and just decided one day that it would feel neat to shave it all off. I was right, it did feel neat, but I let it grow back out mainly out of fear of someone seeing it in the swimming pool locker room.

 

Probably in the 80s, I started trimming my pubic hair. This was after our first swinging experience in the mid 80s. We had already been nudists for a little over 10 years by that time, and totally shaving off your pubic hair was not that common. Sometime in the late 90s, shaving became more common among nudists, so I started shaving my hair off completely and I have done it ever since. These days, the number of men and women who shave is probably greater than the number who go natural or just trim.

 

That adolescent shaving is interesting, what do you think prompted that? I'm assuming the 60's, there weren't adults to check out that were shaved? I was that age in the 50's, it would not have been that easy to shave either with the old razors.

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We were already shaving as Nudists. Back before before American Association for Nude Recreation when the national organization was American Sunbathing Association the guys often looked like Chia Pets although many of the ladies had trims for public beach swim wear. I remember one young woman with a sense of humor/style who trimmed her delta to Gull wings up from her clit, shocking back in the days before things like piercing and full shaving were generally accepted at ASA/AANR facilities.

 

WU had her Bikini trim and I started clipping my wild hairs with a scissors. Then we saw a family at Turtle Lake Resort in Michigan where Mom and Dad were as smooth as their pre-adolescent children. I thought they looked great, went with his crew cut so I went smooth fairly early amongst nudists after that and WU gradually got there too. Now I shave everything but eyebrows and forearms.

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I do what I would do even if I were celibate - trim, not shave. Sometimes, particularly in the winter, I don't shave under my arms. I always keep my legs nice for work (not much hair grows on my legs anyway) because I never wear pantyhose, or panties.

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