Must be bi-male month!

Is it just me or are there more posts about male bisexuality this month than before?

This is like Christmas came late for my wife. She would love for me to explore her fantasy of me being with another man. Sadly I am a straight arrow.

I would like to add that it is refreshing to see this put out in the swinging community. Where we are from there is a lot of bias towards bi men in the community. Most keep it to themselves to avoid harassment.

Anyhow, happy Bi-male January.

I guess bi is the new swinger male.

I am sure I will be watching bi mmf porn tonight with my wife.

Maybe next year honey...

Lmao.. I don't think it's bi male month, I just think it's a couple of us guys that's just expressing our thoughts on a small section of this board.

Have you considered that you are simply noticing it more because of your wife's interests ?

Have you considered that you are simply noticing it more because of your wife's interests ?

I was actually thinking the same exact way.

God I wish more men would get over themselves they like watching girls on girl but frown on men interacting. What is this shit men can be bi as easy as girls and it shouldn't have a stigma attached to it. I love sucking and being sucked by either sex. I love when my girl uses a strap-on on me but there is nothing better than a hot cock in my ass.

SwingSetHusband said:

I was actually thinking the same exact way.

Heck... I am so ok with it. My wife loves to watch gay porn and bi mmf porn. It works so much for her I am ok with us doing mmf's. I just don't swing that way. I really like how the bi males are coming out. It was not that long ago when I was at a club in Colorado where the owners of the club were bashing male homosexuality. My brother is gay and we do not frequent that rocky club any more.

You are right Sandra. I do notice it more when my wife shows me posts about bi men. I use to pressure here a little to much to try the bi thing for me. It was a fantasy I had for her.. but it was really for me. We swung with some bi girls and I fulfilled and keep fulfilling that fantasy because she lets me. She is not bi..but lets me play with bi women at the club and if I am lucky it just me and two of them.

I believe in freedom of expression and if adults are having fun and no one is getting hurt, it is all good.

The reference to next year made by myself was a comment to my wife that maybe next year I will turn bi... I would be open to being bi.. if I was .. but I am not. I do not even like my man juice... so I don't think it is possible for me to like another man's.

Maybe my wife could send me to a hypnotherapist.

OLDER BIGUY said:

God I wish more men would get over themselves they like watching girls on girl but frown on men interacting. What is this shit men can be bi as easy as girls and it shouldn't have a stigma attached to it. I love sucking and being sucked by either sex. I love when my girl uses a strap-on on me but there is nothing better than a hot cock in my ass.

I wish bi guys would stop telling me what I should and shouldn't like to see and do myself

Chicup, if there was a separate room in a club that was designated for, and posted as, 'couples with bisexual husbands'..., you'd probably go in, right?

ViSexual said:

Chicup, if there was a separate room in a club that was designated for, and posted as, 'couples with bisexual husbands'..., you'd probably go in, right?

Actually there are threads like that I do not go into, for example this one...

Ladies: Who thinks bi/bi curious guys are hot?

But this thread was not one of those, and we had the somewhat typical response here. It's funny how no one here gets upset with straight women not wanting to "experience" bi.

The reference to next year made by myself was a comment to my wife that maybe next year I will turn bi... I would be open to being bi.. if I was .. but I am not.. I do not even like my man juice.. so I dont think it is possible for me to like another mans....

I'd just like to point out that you don't have to turn bi to try something once. I mean, I've tried oysters a few times (and they are way more disgusting than semen could ever be) and I still haven't woken up as one. Just sayin'.

True story: I had a friend who lamented that he was stuck being straight. He'd tried oral and anal with a few men, hoping that open mindedness would get him over being straight, but nope. Still straight. Still not interested in men. Seriously, it made him sad, because he felt being straight (or gay) was less evolved, somehow.

Chicup said:

Actually there are threads like that I do not go into, for example this one...

 

Ladies: Who thinks bi/bi curious guys are hot?

 

But this thread was not one of those, and we had the somewhat typical response here. It's funny how no one here gets upset with straight women not wanting to "experience" bi.

Except there are a couple of problems with your theory. 1. No one here is saying that you have to be bi, want to be bi, or try bi against your will. 2. No one is getting upset about straight men not wanting to experience bi.

Some are upset because there is a stigma on it that isn't placed on bi women, and that stigma is wrong. You said

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I wish bi guys would stop telling me what I should and shouldn't like to see and do myself

which is exactly what we are talking about. Straight women don't have to eat pussy if they don't want to. Yet they can't/shouldn't go into a club and complain about OTHER women eating pussy. Just like you shouldn't complain about OTHER men getting their bi on. If you don't want to see it.... don't go places where you might see that... that simple.

I've noticed a tremendous upsurge in profile visits on AFF from guys claiming to be bi the last few months. I'm not sure if they're just not hiding it anymore or are feeling more liberated.

God I wish more men would get over themselves they like watching girls on girl but frown on men interacting. What is this shit men can be bi as easy as girls and it shouldn't have a stigma attached to it. I love sucking and being sucked by either sex. I love when my girl uses a strap-on on me but there is nothing better than a hot cock in my ass.

Seriously if it turns you on great but I have ZERO interest and ZERO appeal in another guy. In other words if I did it would be the equivalent of taking one for the team. I seem to recall that being a no no right?

SwingSetWife said:

Except there are a couple of problems with your theory. 1. No one here is saying that you have to be bi, want to be bi, or try bi against your will. 2. No one is getting upset about straight men not wanting to experience bi.

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God I wish more men would get over themselves they like watching girls on girl but frown on men interacting.

It's one of those things which will always need to get repeated over and over, because everyone acts as if their kink is secretly your kink. No matter how many times I have to say that watching men have sex is a turn-off to me, and more importantly my wife, I'm told that if I'd just get over myself it wouldn't be an issue.

No I don't want to see guys taking it up the ass in a swing club, if they were, we would find a new club. It's not about fairness or double standards, it's simply what we as a couple want to be around. It's not a judgment statement, it's not saying being bi as a guy is "wrong" or more wrong than women but it's completely non-sexy to us.

I am so ok with my men at the clubs. Heck if it's your kink and no one gets hurt, kink away. If it's ok for to women to dirty dance on the dance floor men should be able to do it. If it gets my wife going, good for her. Maybe she can get in between two bi men and live out a fantasy, I am ok with it. I just love how the clubs are changing... and accepting of our kinks.

81lizard69 said:

I am so ok with my men at the clubs. Heck if it's your kink and no one gets hurt...kink away. If it's ok for to women to dirty dance on the dance floor men should be able to do it. If it gets my wife going, good for her. Maybe she can get in between two bi men and live out a fantasy. I am ok with it. I just love how the clubs are changing... and accepting of our kinks.

The way I look at it, is clubs exist for a purpose. I'm not into BDSM so I don't go to BDSM clubs. I don't find it particularity sexy. I like strong women, but I also don't like to be dominated, as such BDSM has little to offer me.

The more multi-kink the club is the more dilute the membership. If a club is "open to all kinks" it's just that much harder to find your own.

The second aspect is that we find "like attracts like" in clubs, no matter what they are thought of as founding. A club that's 100% open to single men without an upcharge will quickly become the club with a lot of singles males per couple. A club that starts to have a hard body crowd will attract that group and those that don't fit that mode will not feel comfortable. Same goes for the hefty crowd, or the young crowd or the old crowd. It seems to be human nature to self segregate into their comfort group.

Now at HUGE gatherings this doesn't matter, you will have plenty to choose from, but huge parties are not the norm on the local scene for us. It's hard enough finding what we are looking for at the clubs here. I know I'm not alone in the "don't wanna see bi male activities" in swinging, if clubs get known for that, it's that much harder for us. This is more of a math equation then a swinger equation. So while I don't care what a club does on the individual level, on a whole I wouldn't want to see every club bi male open (and bi open I mean open sexual activities in plain sight) any more than I'd want to see them turn into BDSM clubs.

I like seeing the differences in the club. I remember being at a hotel take over event in Denver the man that just bought the club from the old owners was ripping on gay men... I wonder if he even researched who he bought the club from. The old owner and his wife were both bi! LOL real life is stranger than reality. That night there were some hurt feelings and words. The new owner changed his outward tone and things seem to be running smooth for now.