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Bi-male fantasies, male and female perspectives  

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  1. 1. Bi-male fantasies, male and female perspectives

    • Male - I have had bi fantasies and won't tell Significant Other.
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    • Male: I have not had bi fantasies but would tell if I did.
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    • Male: I have had bi fantasies but would not tell couples we swing with.
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    • Male: I have not had bi fantasies but if I did I would tell other couples.
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    • Male: I find at least some M/M play erotic
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    • Male: I don't find any M/M play erotic
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    • Female: I would want to know if my Significant Other had bi fantasies.
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    • Female: I would not want to know if my Significant Other had bi fantasy's.
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    • Female: I would be afraid to tell other couples.
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    • Female: I would not be afraid to tell other couples.
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    • Female: I find at least some M/M play erotic
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    • Female: I don't find any M/M play erotic.
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While I was reading the ongoing Bisexual issue one post really caught my eye. The post said he would like to have a bi experience, but his significant other would not be happy with that. That got me to thinking.

 

I wonder how many straight swinger guys have had bi fantasies but would never tell their significant other they do?

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To me, M/M action is erotic. I don't know what it would be like to be involved in a threesome or more where there is M/M action, but I hope I'd be okay with it...........especially since I'm bicurious myself. The doublestandards shown by some just toward the idea of M/M play is disappointing to me. I know that "to each her own", but if someone is open minded enough to embrace female bisexuality as a concept, then why not male bisexuality? Again, this is spoken by an outsider as we've done nothing yet and my husband says he's straight. He doesn't have a problem with M/M action as an idea at all and who knows, if we do take the plunge, maybe we will find out:D

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MrsVjk is quite bi. I am not. Incidental contact during DP for example doesn't bother me at all. I just get aroused by females and not by males.

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I really don't think most straight men would ever feel comfortable kissing or caressing another man and most do not find the average male body all that appealing (maybe it has to do with biologically seeing other men as competition and not mating material, maybe women's inborn nurturing allows them to see the same beauty in other women that men do and having less of a built in need to compete with them, also allows them to be loving, submissive, whatever) compared to how women view other women even if they are straight.

 

I find it interesting when women say they think it would be hot to see two men together though and wonder if that is really true. I don't see how they would, but if they say so... I think the erotic visions they have come from an idealized vision of two hairless, beautiful men with sculpted bodies and with full heads of hair and that usually won't be found anywhere outside L.A. or gay porn.

 

That said, every man who has seen a woman give a blowjob has wondered what it would be like to do it; and those who say they haven't are liars. They would all suck their own if only they could - so a different one isn't that far a stretch to consider doing, especially if they think it would turn the women on.

 

Sorry about the blanket generalizations, just gives the sentences more oomph to not equivocate every three words.

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Remember that there are some women who might think seeing two women making love to one another is not appealing either. I'm not one of them, but I imagine they exist.

 

And I do think seeing two men together is hot. Honest. Cross my heart ;)

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I think seeing two women go at it is arousing for me. I am more straight than bi but I will have women for threesomes. I have had two in the past and I loved to explore every inch of them. Now as for men. I would love to see two men go at it. That is such a fantasy for me right now but hub is not that type. He is into the full ffm threesome type of swinging. Oh well!

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I guess I am one that is kind of drawn to the taboo!!! I also think life is so short that I am interested in tasting life. I am Bi-sexual Bi choice I really want to experience life in the swinging lifestyle.

 

My point is there may be a couple out there where the male would like to try new things like M/M play or something of the sort and his mate would love too see it but they don't communicate. they just say what they think the other one want's to hear. I know this because I was one of them and the only one I cheated was myself. I am so grateful to this swinger board for allowing me to write my thought's and if I could help one person or couple in anything I post I am very happy.

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I only wish I could vote for more than one option in this poll.

 

I think I'm in the category of "interested in every combination."

 

I think MM stuff is incredibly hot.

 

I would definitely want to know if my S.O. was having such fantasies.

 

Also, I would have no problem letting other couples know about said fantasies.

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The way I look at this bi stuff is... you do what feels good and doesn't bother you. If you like it then why not do it? Regardless if it's bi, straight, or whatever...

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We were with 1 couple where he wanted to experience another guy and he approached my partner about it. She thought it was a good idea, but I wasn't so sure, so nothing happened. But it led to me giving it some thought and while I have no desire to kiss another man, I think it would be good to be in a 3some or 4some situation where hand/mouth to genital contact was ok between the guys. I agree that every guy wonders what it would be like to give a blow job. However I always describe myself as str8 as I see it as probably being an experience I'd only ever share with one guy.

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I think that it would take a little getting used to but I have thought of it and figure it could be interesting and fun with the right one.

 

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I know for one that my SO had bi fantasies that he did not tell me about for a long time. He finally did tell me. It was a little bit of a shock to me at first because of society's views on this but I like some bi action with another female and I had to admit to myself that I had often fantasized about seeing him with another man. I'd even had desires to get a strap-on and do stuff to him. I told him about my fantasies, and I think he was surprised to find out that I had gotten off on the idea of him with another man. Now we're looking to explore those feelings he has, but have yet to meet up with a couple with a bi-male yet.

 

Anyhoo, I guess what I'd say is that I kind of wished he'd told me from the beginning. I'd rather him tell me than hide it from me. He and I are in this together, and I'd rather we open and honest about what we think, want, feel, etc.

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I would definitely like to suck a cock, but it is not a driving fantasy. I just know that if given the time and place, and the right friend, I'd do it. I've sucked my wife's dildo because she wanted me to at first, then I found that I did enjoy doing it particularly after she had been masturbating with it.

 

I would not like one on one sex with a man at all. Sucking a cock while within a swinging situation is my thought. Who knows, maybe it would lead to something more, but I doubt it. I like rubbing cocks together while getting liked by my wife, and she loves that. I think it might be just as much fun to jointly suck a cock with her.

 

Just sounds like fun to me.

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Well, I don't know how odd I am, but I am actually Neutral to the idea of messing with another man. It doesn't turn me on, and it doesn't turn me off either. I really can't think of any way to describe it besides being Neutral.

 

If my wife asked me to do it, I would, but that is probably the only way that I would. I have nothing against it and I could probably watch two guys go at it without a problem (but it wouldn't arouse me either). I don't think she will ever ask me such a question, but you never know sometimes.

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Well I may be 'odd woman out' but seeing M/M play does not interest or excite me at all.

 

Mrs. Gt feels the same way.

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I marked that I would want to know if he had those kinds of fantasies. Only because I wouldn't want him to keep anything from me. But I have to agree that it doesn't interest or excite me. I wouldn't have a problem if it went on around me though, like in a club or something but I doubt that it would do anything for me.

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Neither of us regard male/male activity as erotic. Greg's feelings are pretty neutral about it, but Sheryl finds it downright disgusting. Curiously, we get contacted by bi males (and bi couples) fairly often while chatting on Yahoo! While Greg will gently decline their offers, Sheryl will get pretty mean about rejecting them! :mad:

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I marked that I would want to know if he had those kinds of fantasies. Only because I wouldn't want him to keep anything from me. But I have to agree that it doesn't interest or excite me. I wouldn't have a problem if it went on around me though, like in a club or something but I doubt that it would do anything for me.

 

I agree, we have talked about it (see thread on "don't hate me because I'm straight) simply because it seems to come up so much, so I answered the way I did because I already know he would tell me. I know what you mean though neither of us would want the other to keep some fantasy or even a curiosity a secret from the other. The lifestyle is about communication and openness with your SO so that is important to us.

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I think it might be just as much fun to jointly suck a cock with her.

 

Just sounds like fun to me.

 

It is! You should try it! :D

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