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I'm curious as to how many men that started the lifestyle stating that they were straight but have since changed to bi-curious or or bi? Is this something that happens often? If you have changed from straight to bi, what caused the change? How long were you swinging when you decided to change? I can't speak for every man out there, but many that I know have a desire to watch their wife with another woman. Do woman ever think of their husband with another man?

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It would be interesting to know just how many female halves have a fantasy of seeing their hubby with a guy. Are there some of you out there that harbor the fantasy, but never mention it because you know what your hubby's reaction would be? Christine and I seem to be in a very small minority because neither of us are interested in seeing the other with someone of the same sex. I know I know....how can I be normal if I don't want to see her with another woman?? (that's totally tongue in cheek btw!) It's just SOOO much more exciting seeing her with another guy! ;) Anyway....back to the original topic..... I've always (and still do) consider myself straight. If Christine was interested in seeing me in a bi situation, then I guess it's something I would seriously consider. But since she's not, and I don't think it's something I would ever seek out on my own.... Then again, who knows, when we got married I never thought I'd see (much less enjoy!) her riding another guy. Isn't exploring our sexual selves what this is all about anyway?

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Are there some of you out there, that harbor the fantasy but never mention because you know what your hubby's reaction would be?

 

 

I cant honestly tell you how my reaction would be if my wife told me this is something she would want. Ive always concidered myself straight, and havent had the desire to change. How can I ask my wife to play with another female, but completely refuse to consider a wish that she would have. Chris like you I dont think I would ever pursue it on my own....

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I probably should keep my mouth shut but... I haven't learned yet.

 

I have read a lot of porn/erotica... and just viewed stories that featured two males interacting as part of the story... erotic, exciting what ever... mildly interesting.

 

I knew my hubby had no interest... W h a t s o e v e r ... and I would never have requested that he indulge my curiosity.

 

then I happened to be at a bdsm club one night and there was a gay couple there. and they were interacting and frankly... I hope I concealed my emotions because as judgmental and hypocritical as this sounds... it was far from appealing (to me at any rate). it is not an experience I want to witness again. we left early and on subsequent nights are always careful to take seats where the option of NOT observing is possible but not obvious.

 

was it because of the activities that they were indulging in?

was it because it was my first experience at a bdsm club?

 

I don't know...either of those are possible ... but any possibility that I might have ever found it interesting has been completely obliterated from my mind.

 

I feel like everything out of my keyboard is a wet blanket these days :(

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We both find watching each other with the same sex extremely erotic. We're never content to just watch though, which is why we are interested in bisexual playmates! LOL!

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My husband (95mustang) is totally straight. Although I have told him that it is a fantasy to see him do oral with another man, we both agree that it would be better keep to fantasy for us. It doesn't bother him that I fantasize (sp) about this, but it will never happen. Some fantasies for us should just remain fantasy.

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1. When we started out my wife knew of my teen sex experimentation, and the psychological pain it had caused me for many years.

 

2. After some years of swinging, we tried oral with several guys at the club and at home exchanges. I never did have a male cum, but it would have been sexy and erotic if he did.

 

3. At this moment, I would love to taste a cock before it goes into either Eileen or his wife, and then taste it after it has cum, and still wet with creme.

 

4. I also think it would be erotic to eat out Eileen or Doris while Don is using a small vibe on my ass, and then perhaps later butt fucking me while I am eating Doris or Eileen.

 

5. I have wondered what it would be like to be at a gay club in Seattle and really be reamed by a guy.; But with the AID epidemic, I will leave that to my imagination and stimulation.

 

6. I was once blown by a male -- and he gave me the very best blow job I have ever had. He seemed to know how to get every drop of creme out, and I felt so relaxed afterwards.

 

7. There have been other opportunities, but for one reason or another did not take them.

 

8. The description of "Tete beche" also sounds sexy and fun.

 

9. More than one of our female playmates has said that she would be turned on by male - male action.

 

10. As we have gone along, Eileen has come out more and tried more bi stuff with her girlfriends.

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OK, I'm a single (but attached) female exploring swinging with my significant other. Before I met him I interacted with a lot of single guys in this lifestyle, online, on the phone, and some in person. It has been my experience that the guys who are into this lifestyle are a lot less homophobic than the general population of guys who aren't into swinging. The idea of being in the same room with another naked aroused male is very threatening to a lot of guys outside the swinging community but a given within the lifestyle.

 

Having said that, I have a fantasy about two guys together in a threesome situation - some m/m - with a female (that would be me lol) but the guys are both straight. Let me explain....I used to think two seeing two guys together would be really really hot but after getting to know one single guy who was straight in his profile but way more than bi in reality, I discovered that when a guy leans toward being gay as in saying beforehand that he loves women but in a threesome situation would love to suck a cock (especially if it's been inside me first) and would be open to anal with a guy in the same situation, it was a turn-off. I found through that that my fantasy has more to do with a guy who is truly straight but comfortable enough with his masculinity to be open to incidental (or a little more than incidental) contact in a mfm situation. Who is so into the moment and so turned on that he lets things happen/does things he wouldn't have done otherwise. A straight guy who will go down on me after another guy has cum in me (huge fantasy, not bi but certainly not homophobic), who will maybe in the heat of the moment let another guy fuck me while we are in a 69 position with me on top.

 

This is a big fantasy, I don't want him to suck another guy's cock, but there will be some incidental contact in a situation like that involving licking more than likely. I think that is SO yummy. A guy who's not afraid to touch another guy's cum on me or who loves sloppy seconds and cream pies. I don't consider that bi but the idea of it turns me on a lot. Even a man who's comfortable guiding the other guy's penis into me if it slips out or who's comfortable with his cock touching the other guy's cock inside me in a double penetration kind of thing. The fantasy that gets me off every time right now is this: The guy I'm dating and I are in a mfm and the attention is focused on me entirely :facelick:

 

We have all kinds of foreplay, both sucking my breasts, a lot of kisses from my guy, etc. One going down on me while I suck the other guy. Then I suck them both at the same time, one then the other, holding both cocks in my hands. I have their cocks like an inch from each other while I suck them and even let them barely touch as I take one in my mouth and then the other (Very hot to me btw). Then we attempt a double vaginal with me on top of the other guy (who can't be very big lol) and my bf behind me. Both guys are loving it. My bf cums inside me first and pulls out leaving the other guy inside me and then slides a finger or two into my pussy while the other guy and I are still fucking. I usually come by this point, my fantasy gets no further lol. But that's the one that really works for me right now.

 

So it's kind of a bi fantasy, but kind of not because neither guy in my fantasy is bi. Just open to the moment. The thought of two guys kissing or hugging is a huge turn off though as is straight out oral, one guy on his knees in front of the other guy...submissive guys are a big turn off to me, maybe that's why. A guy with a cock in his mouth or on the receiving end of anal is putting himself in a submissive position.

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I have seen male/male porn here and there...it is nothing that turns me on in any degree. I have NO fantasies about Mr. Midnite and another man at all...and I know 100% he has none either...at times even female/female porn will give me a turn off...even though I am very bi friendly...giving and receiving.

 

He is not freaky about things touching in a MFM at all...he knows things can get brushed and bumped... :lol:

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R here: For the record, L is coercing me to reply to this. She read it, while I squirmed squeamishly. I have long held the opinion that women are biologically oriented neutral and have the capacity to go either way. Whereas, we males are almost definitely either oriented streight or gay. It just seems unmanly to be indecisive. No I can't be changed. L says she'll try it. Ok, I may have had my dick sucked in the Groping room n Negril...but it was dark and my hands were busy....and I didn't RECIPROCATE!!!!

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My first bi experience was at the request of the lady part of a couple that i played with for quite some time. She was very excitied to watch her hubby and I. It now seems to be anatural and fun part of meetings.

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Was already experienced at bi play before getting into swinging. Ms P is fine with m2m oral as long as she's part of the action, as in her getting fucked while the guy in her blows the other man right over her face, says it seems a natural part of mfm, but it's not a necessary part of swinging for her. She likes to be with men who are open-minded enough to not shy away from m2m contact, but also likes being the object of all that male lust. Ms F is a hardcore enthusiast of watching two men play with each other. She will watch and masturbate during such a show before joining in full steam ahead. She especially likes to sit on a cock, lean back and have another guy lick them both. :facelick:

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That is probably my #1 fantasy... to see two guys together.

 

Join the club, my wife has lately expressed the same fantasy only involving me.

 

I have two reactions:

 

1. Tuck and run

2. Isn't this about experimentation?

 

I think it is more common than most men will admit.

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I was homophobic when my wife and I started swinging many years ago. I was carefull not to bump into the other male and wouldn't even kiss my wife after she performed oral on another man. My bi activity, was a very gradual process over several years. It started with a couple. The husbnad started to suck me while at the direction of his wife. I was on my back performing oral on the lady and not in a position to protest. If I were asked, I know I would have said no. I accepted it and afterwards it wasn't even talked about. At a later date I was having sex with the same lady in a missionery position, when her husband came up to her for oral attention. She sucked him and then stuck his cock in my mouth. I was aprehensive but some how expected it. At this point I was divorced and was involved with this couple for several years. It took me several years to become totally comfortable with this. I now love the oppeness and the erotic atmoshpere that it brings. With me, Bi isn't neccessary with a couple but it does make it more comfortable and opens up so many more possiblities for fun.

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To answer the original question about "changing from straight to bi" I never thought much about it in those terms. I personally enjoy giving oral to another man while involved in a 3 or 4 some. I never labeled it as anything except a driving desire to experience EVERYTHING in life. Guys, you should try and set aside artificial labels and all the baggage they carry with them. I enjoy the sensation of a mans penis in my mouth, and I enjoy giving pleasure to another person. If your lady gets pleasure from watching this, then you are giving double pleasure.... Relax and open your minds a little. Sucking another mans penis isnt gonna make you suddely lust for show tunes and flowery shirts....you'll still enjoy the football game on sunday.....lol.....

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Do woman ever think of their husband with another man?

 

I do! He is totally straight and says he's not the least bit interested. But, if he was like many other straight men in the Lifestyle and felt like he'd do it if I initiated it and fully accepted it -- and if he thought he'd like to be sucked by a man or do the sucking -- well, I know it would be a very major turn-on for me. I do fantasize about it. :)

 

I still haven't asked, though. Maybe I'll work up the courage in just the right circumstances.

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I'm not bi but I can play one with the right partner in the right circumstances. Angel expressed a desire to have a bi-male MFM for years before I agreed to try. Having done it I can honestly say I can take it or leave it. Being with another guy doesn't do anything for me sexually, however, seeing her reaction when she watches and participates is exciting. I guess you could say I am taking one for the team but it makes her hot and I enjoy her excitment.

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I love, love this question! And I love JennJenn's response. I have yet to try mfm, but I know what would be most important to me is to be the center of attention. But I also know that I would not want 2 guys who were homophobic, or not open to doing things "in the moment" I also agree with the other posting that seeing a man in a submissive manner is not exciting, (at least to me right now), so how you accomplish all of the above I have no idea but I want to try! And my husband reports that he is not interested in becoming bi, but is not afraid of being on the same bed with another guy with the focus on me...of course! So who knows I guess, the main thing is just to be open to new experiences, and doing whats comfortable for everyone. (I'm still a new newbie though, so these are just my thoughts for now) :)

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I agree with everything you said kat1976, from one newbie to another lol. Being the center of attention is always yummy. I think your husband can interact with another male (with you in the middle of course) and be open to the moment and still not consider himself bi. I haven't swung with my significant other yet but I think he'll be open to the things I talked about in my post when we do....and I know he doesn't consider himself bi. I personally would rather be with a guy who considers himself straight but gets caught up in the moment because he's so excited by it all and maybe does some things he wouldn't have thought he would do. mmmmmmm....:)

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R, don't worry you're NOT gay. For that matter, neither am I! That being said....

 

jennjenn, I like your fantasies. Our first experience with mfm, with her as the center of attention, has left me far less threatened by another erect cock in the room. While we didn't do a dp, I did finger her ass while he was inside her which of course led to some incedental contact through that thin membrane between. And admittedly I angled my finger so as to maximize his pleasure and of course hers..though I'm NOT gay.. I found that it was pretty cool to give them both this pleasure.

 

Since that experience I have become a bit more curious ...For instance, my wife tells me that women give better head to other women since they know the equipment so well. By the way Tempest, maybe we should arrange for a friendly competition one night, LOL. If this is true then I think I'd be interested in recieving some oral from a guy, preferably one who's done it before.

 

-seriously....btw I'm not gay :nono:

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When did I change? Well, it had to be our very first swinging experience. It was in the late seventies, we'd been married only three years, and we had good friends over to watch 'Deep Throat' on 8mm film.

 

This was very much in the news at the time and I'd managed, through some car sales friends, to get the copy. The other two couples were friends we'd known from my two years as a cop. Nothing sexual had ever happened or had even been discussed.

 

After watching the film one of the couples left fairly quickly to get alone! LOL! The other couple stayed and we talked about sex which led to our first experience.

 

As nice as it was to get undressed with three special people and to, for the first time, explore the other wife..., it was a complete turn-on to watch my gorgeous young wife being seduced by my friend.

 

I think we'd each had intercourse, and lots of oral, at least twice when it happened. We were all laying on the bed together and when my wife and my friend began making out for about the third time I helped them. His wife and I were intently watching the two maneurver into position and when his cock came close to my wife's ready vagina the other wife and I both grabbed his cock and guided it in.

 

It really, really felt good in my hand and his wife and I kept on massaging and licking them the whole time they had intercourse.

 

I guess that was the actual moment that I went from 'straight' to curious.

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I considered myself straight. One of those days my wife mentioned she would love to see me with another man. I accepted the proposition and posted an add, requesting a bi-curious male couple. We found one after a while and went for it. We both enjoyed and I felt a new kind of pleasure, never experienced before.

 

That couple introduced us to a male friend, that called himself 100% straight, but after two encounters, he decided to be an active partner only. He enjoyed and I tasted an 8" member inside me. Now I can say, I am bisexual to a certain extent only. No kissing, just oral and anal contact. It is one of the the most pleasurable experience I had in my life.

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My wife said she would like to watch me give a guy a blow job so she could watch as I do when she does a guy. I tried and it and we both thought it was so cool. Now, on a regular basis we try to find an accommodating guy and we blow him together. She enjoys watching him shoot cum in my mouth and then she deep kisses me to slurp it all up while I fuck her. He then licks my cum from her pussy and shares it with her orally. I am now a confirmed bi-curious husband.

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Hi Everyone,

 

It sounds like, so far, that the majority of the individuals who've posted here, would lean or have leaned over toward the Bi side and kinda liked it. That's cool. I know I have. Really enjoyed it to the point of thinking now that, not having the possibility of having an open Bi experience like that would kinda suck – for me anyway.

 

But, the reason I’m posting is really because of the question itself: “Any men changed from straight to bi/curious since starting to swing?

Specifically with the word changed. For instance, L&R stated that, (Post # 15)

“I have long held the opinion that women are biologically oriented neutral and have the capacity to go either way. Whereas, we males are almost definitely either oriented straight or gay.”

 

Hmmm. Well, what if then Men were actually just like women in this above hypothesis and were also oriented neutral? If that were the case, then perhaps nobody changes at all. Maybe we always were and didn’t know it. Maybe we’re all Bi and there are still some who don't really realize it yet. Hmmmm, maybe. Just suppose for the moment we are and that depending on individual life experiences and realities, we can come to be open or not open to our own inherent Bi-Sexual nature. And that could then explain the die-hard attitude of the “str8” guys and gals like (assuming) Greg from Greg and Sheryl who said, (Post 27) “Haven't changed - never will.” (I think that’s funny, I chuckle.)

 

I just don’t like the perpetuation of the either/or scenario. Which then inevitably leads to finger pointing and then…..further off the point of my thought. I also don't like the labels either. Labels to be (Bi) or not to be (Bi) suck! Labels in any situation, only go to limit and restrict, bind and constrict and ultimately lend themselves to the ease of stereotyping and so on and so on…..

 

In my experience, the question of to be or not to be is not a Choice one can consciously make and let alone the enjoyment of it. One can, however, make a conscious decision to be open to the possibility of such experience. Once experienced, one then only decides if the experience was enjoyable in that moment.

 

Any way, the point I’m trying to make with all this is, this, perhaps for those who may have a concern or curiosity with Bi Sexual experiences, instead of having to decide either or, and question, “Oh my God will I be changed for ever?!? Because I can’t be Gay!!!!!!!” maybe you’ll find that it’s more comfortable or easy to just say, “what the f**k! Be open, neither accepting or condemning and you just might find that the only thing that matters is feeling good in the moment.

 

But who knows, maybe not. Just a thought.

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“I have long held the opinion that women are biologically oriented neutral and have the capacity to go either way. Whereas, we males are almost definitely either oriented streight or gay.”

Hmmm. Well, what if then Men were actually just like women in this above hypothesis and were also oriented neutral? If that were the case, then perhaps nobody changes at all. Maybe we always were and didn’t know it. Maybe we’re all Bi and there are still some who don't really realize it yet. Hmmmm, maybe. Just suppose for the moment we are and that depending on individual life experiences and realities, we can come to be open or not open to our own inherent Bi-Sexual nature.

 

That is an excellent point and something I've always felt myself (or for many years anyway) - everyone has the potential to be bi, it just depends on the attitudes you grew up with, what you've been exposed to, your earliest sexual experiences, what your comfort level is in exploring that side of yourself. How comfortable you are being different than what society expects of you.

 

For a man who considers himself completely straight, this would go back to his early experiences and perceptions about himself, the same with a man who considers himself gay. I guess this is kind of ironic since I don't consider myself bi or even bi curious but I do recognize that it may be something that I may explore at some point in my life. It's all about how comfortable you feel with the idea.

 

There's a scale that rates all people from 1 to 10, 1 being totally straight and 10 being totally gay I believe. I think a lot of people would fall somewhere in between if they did some soul searching and allowed themselves to be in situations where they had the possibility to explore it. I for example strongly feel I could never go down on a girl or let a girl do that to me, but I wouldn't be opposed in the future to seeing if I could kiss a girl or touch her breasts. This would maybe put me at a 2 or 3 on that scale.

 

The same with a guy, most guys who are swingers (even the ones who consider themselves 100% straight) would be at least a 2 because they're comfortable being in the same room with another naked man in a sexual situation (IMO). Although this is still a long way from being truly bi which would be a 5.

 

I do strongly feel the potential is there for everybody though.

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SexRus50 sure gave a description of my favorite fantasy! Now, if I could just convince my wife to participate! LOL!

 

Rus, your wife may not want to be with another woman like you'd enjoy..., but you are sure lucky to have what you've got. A lot of us would kill to have wives like her.

 

We've all got our limits and there are always going to be some things that we'd like to have that our spouses 'limits' prevent. Even Julie hasn't been able to experience one of her favorite fantasies because her S/O isn't into it.

 

I envy you!

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JennJenn - first I have 2 things to say, the first of which is "wow" and the 2nd is that your man is one lucky individual.

 

OK so you couldn't have worded it more perfectly - I am always wondering what women think about this subject as I have had some close encounters that have gone into the realm of VERY close. I recall my gf afterwards saying that she was turned off by the fact that here she is, a totally hot blonde giving herself to two guys and one of them is more interested in the other than in her, big turn off for her. The woman should always be the total center of the attention and so much so that some close contact is to be expected, accepted and welcomed as part of "the moment."

 

For me one of the sexiest things is seeing woman taking turns sucking off two men, holding their cocks close in front of her mouth and going back and forth licking them, swallowing one as she looks up at the other man, then slowly taking it out and swallowing the other, then staring at them and then th cocks as they are positioned right in front of her mouth, having them touch ever so slightly at first outside then rubbing right against each other inside her mouth as she opens wide and swallows them both together.

 

So I am always wondering - does this make me gay or bi because I like this? I would not like it if the F were not there, so i must not be but I know a lot of men out there would disagree. To this I have always said that this was OK b/c I am so comfortable with myself, secure in my sexuality and "such a ladies man" that I can be naked with another man, in close quarters to pleasure a woman. Of course, I don't think I would go much further - I mean, if the woman I love or the hottest woman on earth, whatever, wanted me to ass-bang another guy I would have to pass.

 

So the summary of my post is, I don't know if my experiences have made me bi/curious or not - but I know that I would like to volunteer to be in a MFM with JennJenn and her man, that's for sure! :facelick:

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I suppose I'll admit to this one.  Before the LS I wasn't interested in MM activity at all and was largely put off by it.  Then during our second swing experience I remember watching my wife going down on the other husband and wondering about it quite a bit and being curious to try.   Since then it has happened and I've had opportunities to explore with other men, so I guess the answer in my case is yes--I changed as my horizons broadened.

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I guess I've always been a bit bicurious, but never brave enough to try anything. My wife becoming more open made me finally spill the beans to her about it and turns out she doesn't have an issue with it. Not something I'm actively pursuing but if the right situation arose, I'd least try some stuff with another guy once.

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I had homosexual experiences with two men, both oral and anal on both sides of it with each, at our wives insistence.  First time MM for all of us.  The wives thought it was interesting, us men didn't like it (although orgasms happened in each instance) and we haven't done it again.

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My wife had a wish to engage in a Double Penetration type situation and really want to try double Vaginal sex.  I found most guys were not into that much dick to dick Contact.  So DP was easy to find but The DV fantasy went unfulfilled for a while.  Then we met a very pretty bisexual transvestite, named Armani who was game as well as being bi.  While we are having sex together the dick to dick contact was pretty intense.  After my wife had her share and was recuperating Armani and I fooled around.  She sucked my cock, we made out and she rode me.  I've always considered my self straight but fucking Armani was very fun.  We've met up with her 3 times now and there has been sexual contact every time.  My wife is very into it.  

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I personally do not think a person goes from being completely straight to being bi!  It was always there although maybe suppressed or in denial.  Swinging probably just help these people get past it and want to try it.  I also do not believe that everyone is a little bi like so many bi people like to say.  I know I am not in any way interested in other men or dicks. 
 

Although the missus is very bi she has absolutely zero interest in watching men play with men.  Any bi play she experiences for herself is because she wants to.  Not because I want to watch.  

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That is a reasonable position, but I'd carve out the exception for not wanting what you don't know.  I had plenty of opportunity over the years for MM contact but never wanted it.  The closest thing in porn I enjoyed to it was passable trannies fucking women...  As mentioned above, it wasn't until watching my wife suck cock during our second swap that I got really curious and started to consider it. 

 

Then a couple years later when it actually happened, and I performed oral on another guy during a threesome with my wife, my expectations were shattered.  Holding another penis in my hand felt completely different than I imagined and  having it in my mouth was infinitely more erotic than I anticipated.  I don't really find men attractive (though I do find some unattractive) and have no interest in kissing, dating, cuddling etc with a male.   But in a fluid sexual situation, I enjoy giving head which wasn't a repressed fantasy for me--it was something I'd have NEVER tried but for swinging.

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On 11/18/2003 at 3:44 PM, JustAskJulie said:

That is probably my #1 fantasy... to see two guys together.

Surely by now Julie?

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Even before swinging I did enjoy WU's finger or various didos up the rear but had no desire for a man. After starting swinging in a club group and seeing other sexual situations I started getting more curious and ready to try most anything with people I liked.

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3 hours ago, ConfusedHubby said:

I don't really find men attractive (though I do find some unattractive) and have no interest in kissing, dating, cuddling etc with a male.   But in a fluid sexual situation,

I am in total agreement. We have a crew working on our place this week. I said to my wife, as much as I fantasize about giving head, I just don't find any of these guys attractive. But, I'm fairly sure that if they were naked and hard, fucking my wife, I'd be all over it. For her part, she thought one of the men was really cute/hot. Thought he was so sweet and had a nice personality.

 

I think that is the difference between her and I. I'm more focused on the looks not the personality. And frankly, I think a lot of men are unattractive. Sorry guys.

 

Maybe it's conditioning. I don't know.

 

Either way, back to the original question. I think swinging has certainly expanded my mind and certainly offers opportunities to experiment, but I think I was probably fairly open to bi male play before.

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18 hours ago, enhancer said:

I personally do not think a person goes from being completely straight to being bi!  It was always there although maybe suppressed or in denial.  Swinging probably just help these people get past it and want to try it.  I also do not believe that everyone is a little bi like so many bi people like to say.  I know I am not in any way interested in other men or dicks. 

Enhancer, while you may have a valid point for you, the Kinsey report and other scientific studies seem to indicate that the vast majority of people are at least a little bi. You might like to google 'Kinsey Scale' for more reading on this.

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We started swinging in 1996 about 27 years ago right after we met and moved in together. Sabrina was very bi and loved playing with girls and guys, especially in group settings. About 2003 she told me that she thought two or more guys playing with each other was 🔥 hott. We set up a date to meet with a bi guy (Rick) at Quiet Encounters, an on premises swing club in El Paso, TX. After an hour of conversation and drinks to calm my nerves, we went into a private room, locked the door, and we sucked and fucked each other in every combination you could think of for the next three hours. When we eere done, the whole room smelled like sex, sex and sex. We have played m/m lots of times. We just hosted a bi male party in Las Vegas with 3 couples with bi males, 6 bi male tops and 1 single female. I was spit roasted at the same time as Sabrina. Was fucked by 7 of the males and got to swallow 5 loads of cum. 

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11 hours ago, hlgcpl4fun said:

We started swinging in 1996 about 27 years ago right after we met and moved in together. Sabrina was very bi and loved playing with girls and guys, especially in group settings. About 2003 she told me that she thought two or more guys playing with each other was 🔥 hott. We set up a date to meet with a bi guy (Rick) at Quiet Encounters, an on premises swing club in El Paso, TX. After an hour of conversation and drinks to calm my nerves, we went into a private room, locked the door, and we sucked and fucked each other in every combination you could think of for the next three hours. When we eere done, the whole room smelled like sex, sex and sex. We have played m/m lots of times. We just hosted a bi male party in Las Vegas with 3 couples with bi males, 6 bi male tops and 1 single female. I was spit roasted at the same time as Sabrina. Was fucked by 7 of the males and got to swallow 5 loads of cum. 

How do bi or gay males figure out who is a top or bottom? Can they switch?

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We started swinging in 1996 about 27 years ago right after we met and moved in together. Sabrina was very bi and loved playing with girls and guys, especially in group settings. About 2003 she told me that she thought two or more guys playing with each other was 🔥 hott. We set up a date to meet with a bi guy (Rick) at Quiet Encounters, an on premises swing club in El Paso, TX. After an hour of conversation and drinks to calm my nerves, we went into a private room, locked the door, and we sucked and fucked each other in every combination you could think of for the next three hours. When we eere done, the whole room smelled like sex, sex and sex. We have played m/m lots of times. We just hosted a bi male party in Las Vegas with 3 couples with bi males, 6 bi male tops and 1 single female. I was spit roasted at the same time as Sabrina. Was fucked by 7 of the males and got to swallow 5 loads of cum. 

 

You just go with the flow and discover what you like and/or don't like. I am a bottom, we usually look for bi tops or verse. Sabrina loves to suck a nice cock together and then guide it into my ass or I guide it into her. 

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On 6/20/2023 at 5:17 PM, lovefest04 said:

And frankly, I think a lot of men are unattractive.

That's the way I feel, very very few men are the least bit attractive to me.  We are lucky women want to be with us. 

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I don't know how bi this is to the posters, but I have been in MFM several times and had the other man put my cock in the women's pussy and suck it after I came inside her. This has happened about 6 times and usually the woman is the guy's SO. 

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6 hours ago, let's do it again said:

I don't know how bi this is to the posters, but I have been in MFM several times and had the other man put my cock in the women's pussy and suck it after I came inside her. This has happened about 6 times and usually the woman is the guy's SO. 

About a two on a seven or ten scale.

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