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Well, here's the story. My hubby and I have been in the swinging lifestyle for about 2 years now. It all started because of some bi-sexual curiosities that I finally admitted to myself and my hubby that I had. And I guess I should have been clued in because of sneaking peaks at Playboy magazines and getting totally aroused by them as a teen, as well as fantasies that I had about other women when I was alone, but I was just in serious denial.

 

Anyhow, it all came to surface, and after discussing it immensely, we decided to get into swinging with other couples so we could both have fun (just in case the bi-thing wasn't for me) and to experiment with that curiosity of mine. Anyhow, long story short, after having several bi-experiences, I still don't really enjoy the actual thing as much as I enjoy the fantasy of it. I still much more prefer men, so I don't really know if that would classify me as bi or not.

 

But anyways, to my question. This is for the straight guys out there. Since I personally would consider myself to be mostly straight, but still curious, I was wondering if you straight guys had those kinds of fantasies as well? Is your curiosity piqued and are you aroused by the thought of performing oral on another guy, or even having sex with another guy? If so, would you actually do it if the opportunity was there? Or do some of you men have a serious case of "denial" like I had?

 

Just curiously trying to get a sneak peak into the curiosities of the straight guys' minds. I have received answers from my hubby, but wondered what the general consensus on this was...

 

Thanks in advance for your replies!!!

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Wow, I get to be the first one to answer. Yee Haw!!

 

I think that a good percentage of guys think about it from time to time. They will never admit it though. Our childhood was geared toward not being a sissy.

I have harbored thoughts and fantasies along these lines. I am afraid, though, of the let down if I don't have fun. Some fantasies are better left to stimulate the biggest sex organ....the mind.

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The Late Great , Sam Kinison used to tell a joke, about how all guys have a gay fantasy, and he sat down and went thru his fantasies because he wanted it OUT

 

As far as the posted question..

 

I would say it boils down to a few factors..

 

Time

Opportunity

and

Discretion

 

 

Not sure if the fantasy aspect plays as much as if the chance occured and they could

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It'll be different from guy to guy - just like with women... some guys are into it and others aren't at all interested and some feel so strongly about it that they almost feel threatened by the suggestion.

 

Sadly, western society hasn't grown as "accepting" to male-on-male (as compared to the rather open acceptance of female-on-female) sexual activities in popular culture...

 

For me... I'm rather indifferent to it at this point. I'm not "bothered" by seeing men with other men - and I wouldn't freak out if I was with another couple and the man wanted to perform oral sex on me. But it's not something I would really pursue at this point.

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It'll be different from guy to guy - just like with women... some guys are into it and others aren't at all interested and some feel so strongly about it that they almost feel threatened by the suggestion.

 

Sadly, western society hasn't grown as "accepting" to male-on-male (as compared to the rather open acceptance of female-on-female) sexual activities in popular culture...

 

For me... I'm rather indifferent to it at this point. I'm not "bothered" by seeing men with other men - and I wouldn't freak out if I was with another couple and the man wanted to perform oral sex on me. But it's not something I would really pursue at this point.

 

The grey area doesn't work here.

 

Do you fantasize? OR... Not?

 

That's what she wants to know!

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The grey area doesn't work here.

 

Do you fantasize? OR.... Not?

 

That's what she wants to know!

 

No, I've ever fantasized about being with another guy... I've only thought about the theoretical possibility of something occuring in the context of swinging with a couple.

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and I wouldn't freak out if I was with another couple and the man wanted to perform oral sex on me.

 

So you would let him do it with out ever thinking about it?

 

How can that be?

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So you would let him do it with out ever thinking about it?

 

How can that be?

 

I've thought about it, in regards to interacting with a couple - in case the guy happened to be bisexual and wouldn't think I'd wig out if they were up-front about his preferences & we decided to play anyway. But I have not fantasized about having any sort of one-on-one play with another male.

 

I guess maybe I misread the original question.

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I have had fantasies about sex with other men. I had a dream once about my wife and I on a charter sailboat with another couple (the captain and crew) and after a few days of close quarter we started with some soft swapping, then progressed and finally us guys gave each other oral. I have often thought it would be fun to give another guys a blow job, and would not have a problem receiving one. I also enjoy anal, so another fantasy is to have a guy fuck me while his wife gives me a blow job. I have had my wife do this to me with a dildo and it feels great. To me it would just be sex. However, the thought of kissing another guy kind of grosses me out. Same with my wife. We have watched some bi porn together and the sex part is OK, but when the guys kiss we both don't like it. That does seem a little funny, that I could suck a guys cock but be grossed out at the thought of kissing him. Any other guys interest in bi play feel the same about kissing other guys?

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Well, the older I get the more sexually liberal I have become. I consider myself a real man, however, I do fantasize about a man, and have acted on those fantasies. Not ofter, and the circumstances had to be just right, an being a top or a bottom hasn't mattered. Bottom line is: If it feels good, why should you deny yourself, or your partner(s)? Does that make me gay? I think not. A sissy? I can probably kick your ass!

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I'm open minded.

 

Most people seem to equate open minded with 'willing to do anything once' or even just being plain naive.

 

When I say I'm open minded it means I can think about it, imagine it and decide if its for me.

 

So have I had gay fantasies, no, not in the way people typically think of it. I imagine it as an intellectual exercise, I think about if I'd like to do it. When it comes to gay sex the answer has always been no, its something I have no desire to act out.

 

Given the perfect time.

The perfect opportunity.

The perfect discretion, as in it would NEVER be known.

 

I'd still have no desire.

 

Interestingly its this same thought process which made me think about swinging as something I'd might like to be involved in.

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seriously, dicks are an unattractive, ugly piece of equipment. I need a nice pair of tits, a wet pussy and a sexy feminine personality to get a lift in life. I don't see what it is that makes women desire us guys, but I'm very happy they do.

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"Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men?"

 

This is a trick question, right?

 

It begs the question - "if a guy is fantasizing and getting aroused about sex with another guy.... um... is he in fact straight?"

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I'm open minded.

 

Most people seem to equate open minded with 'willing to do anything once' or even just being plain naive.

 

When I say I'm open minded it means I can think about it, imagine it and decide if its for me.

 

So have I had gay fantasies, no, not in the way people typically think of it. I imagine it as an intellectual exercise, I think about if I'd like to do it. When it comes to gay sex the answer has always been no, its something I have no desire to act out.

 

Given the perfect time.

The perfect opportunity.

The perfect discretion, as in it would NEVER be known.

 

I'd still have no desire.

 

Interestingly its this same thought process which made me think about swinging as something I'd might like to be involved in.

 

Couldn't have said it any better than that.

 

I can't even watch gay porn but I think every male has at least wondered what it would be like. When I wonder, I smack myself in the head.

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Definite no here. The thing with questions like these is that they always seem so loaded. Almost as if there is an agenda in place before it's asked.

 

It *is* possible that there are guys who are just 100% straight (a lot of them actually) and if you're bi or gay that shouldnt AT ALL make you feel threatened or make you want to question yourself or them.

 

Pensacola pair nailed it I think. If the guy is fantasizing about men, he is probably not straight and is likely bi but just hasnt accepted it yet. So basically "straight" guys are partially *defined* by the fact that they dont fantasize about men. Bi and gay guys do, which is totally cool for them.

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Said with Tongue in Cheek;

I relate this topic and a man's sexuality to the Erector set I used to play with as a boy..

Man = Bolt, Woman = Nut..

A-You can screw a bolt into a nut.. you can have two or more nuts on one bolt..

B-You can stack one nut or more on top of another.. it works well and looks good but it's not a solid structrure..

C-If you are careful you can screw a bolt into each opposing side of a nut. mfm

D-But try and try as you might you cannot put two bolts together. Can't stack 'em, can't screw 'em together.

 

As many times as I have given a fleeting thought to building something with two bolts I know it won't work for me so I abandon that project.

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I probably fantasize about 50 percent of the women I'm around. Seriously!

 

I always fantasize about women when I masturbate.

 

I've never seen a man and wondered what he'd look like naked.

 

No, I don't fantasize about men at all but I would enjoy sucking a cock in the right situation. And, for me, that right situation is during a MFM threesome.

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I don't fantasize about sex with men although since enjoying with a transitioned M2F lady I have pictured what I would do if a lady I liked still had a penis when her pants came off. I see myself hugging and kissing and moving on with her from there. I guess I see this a fantasizing about ladies.

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Short answer….hell no!

 

I do fantasize about sharing my wife with another guy. We've done it and it was for HER pleasure. While it was happening I was enjoying participating in her erotic evening. There is no attraction for me towards another male.

 

Btw, Im not sure what the correct term for a chick with a dick is but I don't think "lady" fits.

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"Do straight guys ever fantasize about other men?" For me and 99% sure of the other husbands who we play with, no.

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Interesting question... I’m the male in manitobacpl ... I do not fantasize about men as such .. what I DO fantasize about is other men with my honey . Our rules are we play together .. so MFM threesomes are how we went . She likes watching male on male oral , which I oblige ... now I do not consider myself gay in any way or even bi ... I get a huge turn on knowing my honey is watching . Being with a man alone does nothing for me at all .... just sayin ?

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Btw, Im not sure what the correct term for a chick with a dick is but I don't think "lady" fits.

Lady can be simply a woman although usually one who is more gentle and refined than a chick.

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I guess it’s not the right group for this question. We hang with a group with several bisexual

makes and females. We are comfortable with all forms of contact. My husband enjoys performing oral on me while I am getting fucked and will suck my partners cock in between strokes. The ladies enjoy pegging the guys and we enjoy a lot of girl on girl action. He doesn’t prefer anal penetration but I have watched him take another guy and it’s hot as fuck. Guess it all depends on your group and their preferences.

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Yes, and I've acted on it and now enjoy sucking an attractive penis. I still consider myself straight though I enjoy oral in MMF with both partners.

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Not other men and me per say... I get aroused thinking of them entering my SO, cumming in her etc... Maybe once I thought about a B-in law and sucking on his cock but that was once.

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I don't fantasize about the men per se. I do fantasize about the sex I can have with a man. I find I'm not really attracted to men. I really do find the woman form much more attractive and appealing, however, I am a sexual being and I'm all over getting another man off, and vis-a-versa. Does that make sense?

 

We have always played together, so the other man is just another "toy/plaything" but I couldn't see myself in a male/male relationship. without my sexy wife, I don't think I'd ever act out a sexual encounter with a man. Although, I've learned never to say never.

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Can’t say that I do, no offense intended. I can get aroused seeing an attractive hard cock, knowing how it feels and what it takes to get that way, but as far as wanting it or to be with another guy? No.

 

Empathy arousal, maybe? lol

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My husband has revealed to me on several occasions that he finds some men very attractive. Occasionally he will pick our third because he is curious about how he looks and wants to see him with me. We have left the beach with men that we both find attractive because of their hot looking body or penis. I have noticed that he watched them closely while I give them oral sex or while they are fucking me. It's fine because I do the same with the ladies. I guess it's why we are compatible.

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No. But then nowadays, a lot of lines are blurred. Also, you see a lot of men in the LS saying they are straight and then evolve to saying they are still straight but bi-curious, and keep on evolving from there.

Now, and this is just an interesting observation, a psychiatrist who specializes in hotwife and cuckold couples, noticed that at least 50% of the males in these couples were bi-sexual.

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So if a guy identifies as bi curious, then engages in a male on male situation with his wife , is he then bi ? I personally could never do man on man without my honey there , yet when we are in mfm she likes seeing oral ?

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So if a guy identifies as bi curious, then engages in a male on male situation with his wife , is he then bi ? I personally could never do man on man without my honey there , yet when we are in mfm she likes seeing oral ?

 

What does it matter? Stop fixating on the lables and enjoy yourself.

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I completely agree with Fitlake! The questions you should be asking yourself are as follows:

Are we having fun?

Does what Im doing feel good for me or give pleasure to my partner?

Is my wife enjoying what Im doing with her or someone else?

Am I enjoying what my wife is doing with me or with others?

 

Questions not to ask:

 

Is this normal?

Does what Im doing make me bi or gay

Does what she's doing make her bi or lesbian

 

The whole point of swinging is sharing sexual pleasure. Try not to over think or over label this and you'll have a hell of a lot more fun!

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I don't daydream or fantasize about sex with guys just ladies including MTF but in the nudist and swinging world I have seen a few erect cocks large or little that I would like to get my hands or mouth on if I could stand the guy attached. I have no interest in topping a guy but I enjoy being pegged and I am curious to feel the real thing at least once.

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A very interesting question and some very interesting answers! Apparently a very complicated issue and I'm surprised by the variety of responses.

 

I'm new to the site and just learning about swinging and was somewhat surprised by some of the negative responses as I'd assumed that people that swing would be some of the most sex positive and opened minded people around, but everyone has their views and that's what makes this thread so interesting.

 

As for me personally, I've wondered if, in a MFM situation, if there was MM contact, how would I react? If the other guy wanted to touch me or perform oral on me, could I even become aroused. So, as far as fantasizing, I guess I would call it more of an intellectual question and since I've never been in that kind of situation I have no idea if it would be good or bad. Men don't do anything for me like women do but if I think about MM contact I don't think it makes be gay or bi.

 

It seems like there's a double standard as someone mentioned above. Why is it OK for two straight women to be together and not two straight men? Very interesting thread as I've mentioned before and look forward to more responses.

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There seems to have been some misunderstanding in my above post .. I was asking a hypothetical question. , not referring to myself .. we have established where I am on bi curious/bi whatever . Thanks for the reply’s anyway ?

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I completely agree with Fitlake! The questions you should be asking yourself are as follows:

Are we having fun?

Does what Im doing feel good for me or give pleasure to my partner?

Is my wife enjoying what Im doing with her or someone else?

Am I enjoying what my wife is doing with me or with others?

 

Questions not to ask:

 

Is this normal?

Does what Im doing make me bi or gay

Does what she's doing make her bi or lesbian

 

The whole point of swinging is sharing sexual pleasure. Try not to over think or over label this and you'll have a hell of a lot more fun!

In the LS over 30 years....did 99.99% couple swaps and honestly, while I'm having sex with the other woman my brain is only tabulating info like, the woman's reactions, sounds, etc..while I'm in some kind of a semi-transe functioning on some sort of animal impulse, letting my passion for her body take me over. So those kind of questions were left for personal introspection.

If I had ever been tempted, turned on or fantasized about anything with another man I would have acted on it.

I was brought up by jewish parents who even though they were born in the 1910s in North Africa, were both educated and open-minded.

If once I had started dating my 1st gf I had discovered I liked men too I would have told her, then told my parents and my friends. No closet for me.

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I can only speak for myself (husband) and nobody else. When it comes to other guys and how they may relate to me sexually - NEVER - just don't swing that way. On the other hand when it comes to how they might be able to bring pleasure to my wife.... :fun:

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