My fantasy - watch husband with another male

My husband and I have never done this but I feel like I have because I've been looking at swinger websites for years now. My question is about two men getting it on. It seems that the majority of the time any same-sex lovin' occurring is between women. I would love to see my husband get it on with another man. Does this happen at swinger parties or am I a total anomaly? Would other men freak out?

You are certainly not alone, my wife and you would get along just fine.

It had been a fantasy of hers for some time and we actually made it come true. For her it was over the top. She was soooo excited. Honestly, I have seldom seen her get as worked up as she did watching and having two men at the same time.

We tend to play together so we invited a male to join us and explained that there would most certainly be male male contact. She actually directed the action a bit. Then the three of us played.

She absolutly loved it and I loved making her fantasy cum true. If only I could bring that kind of joy to every woman in the world.

thinking of that, you ever in California?

Kittyphur said:

Does this happen at swinger parties or am I a total anomaly?

I don't think you are a total anomaly, but I have never seen it happen at a club and most clubs that I've been to discourage it.

Kittyphur said:

Would other men freak out?

Some wouldn't, most would.

For more on this here are a couple recent threads on the subject.

M/M Bisexual Activity

Men swingers and bisexuality

Being a straight as an arrow male, I would't want to see 2 guys together @ a party or club. Doesn't mean I'd freak out though. To each his own. But I think straight women seeing other women together doesn't bother them as much as it would guys seeing guys together. Maybe a little double standard or something. For some reason, I've always felt that all women are, at the very least, a little bi-curious. Maybe that could be one of the reasons two women are more acceptable than two men, although I could be completely wrong (I hope not, the all women being a little bi thing I mean ).

I'd do it for her.

Straight as I am, I want to see her excited.

Sounds like a great fantasy to me . I know you are certainly not alone, though there are fewer bi males in swinging than bi females and mm play is very rare at parties and clubs so I've heard. Good luck with your fantasy.

I'd do it just to make her happy.

My wife gets super turned on when I join her in sucking off a guy. She licks his balls as I handle his cock. She loves it when he cums in my mouth and I share it with her in a deep kiss while I then fuck her. But, we must be careful in the clubs because of the double standard. It is ok for her to eat another woman but for us to do the above described appears to make many uncomfortable.

I think this is ojne of those kinds of things that doesn't play well in public swing situations but is very much accepted, and from my experience, engaged in in more intimate settings.

Never seen it happen in a club. But have heard about it happening while we were at a club. The two guys were laughed out of there. It is a huge double standard. So with that in mind I (Mr. Wylde) am only a str8 player in the clubs and a bi dude in private with our friends.

There is lots of bi male activity in the "private" rooms of the clubs,and maybe sometimes in the dark public rooms.

But the bi male activity seems to be followed up with a get together at one another's homes.

I would guess there is regular sexual bi mail contact in any large lifestyle club from my experience with six clubs over a number of years.

Many of the clubs up here have started Bi nights (usually midweek) for Bi-couples. I have seen Bi-Male action at on-premises clubs here in Montreal, but it's usually done discretely. What is becoming very common is for Bi stuff to happen at private house parties. The last party we were at, out of 9 couples that were there, 5 of the men were Bi. They don't touch the straight guys (unless asked, which happens) but none of it bothers the straight guys in the least.

We've found that the Bi-male thing isn't as taboo as it once was, and many men are finally admitting to their curiosity.

We've found that the Bi-male thing isn't as taboo as it once was, and many men are finally admitting to their curiosity.

This has been my experience, as well, and I say... !!!

I wouldn't have a problem acting out that fantasy for my wife. I'm kind of curious anyways. I wouldn't expect my wife to do anything that I wouldn't do myself.

OMG !! I have this fantasy all the time ! Sadly, my guy would never, but I sure wish he would ! I would love to see this particular double standard disappear. I don't see it as being any different than two women together, but most men seem to think differently. The closest I've ever gotten with my guy is renting some movies that centered on male bi activity. Wow.... I'll bet the real thing is even better !!!

when I was 22 (1984) I was with a couple where the guy wanted me to F** his wife. I the middle she wanted to see him suck me. so I let him...She was on fire..she also sucked me and I finished in both of there faces. Now when I swing if the mood hits and it's ok with him. I will 69 him and she can watch. Men get to see 2 women do each other a lot . It's only fair that if a women wants to see it she should ask and get her wishes granted. What's the big deal good sex is good sex. Your doing it in a room and not on the front page of the papers. The next day at work your boss is not going to say you look like you just done sucking dick. Go with the moment, drop the homo-phobe.

I will be completely honest here and state that this has never been a curiosity or fantasy of mine. I do believe that my husband is somewhat curious, though I also believe he suppresses it to some extent because he is afraid of what I, and others, might think. Much to his disappointment, I am not bi-sexual in the least. So, I guess I project my own lack of desire of same sex partners onto him, and don't understand where his curiosity comes from, since I don't have it.

I honestly would not be comfortable with my husband engaging in same sex activity, but if it was what he wanted, I would agree to it and harbor no ill thoughts toward him.

I would just prefer, that if it does ever happen, that my husband be the recipient of the blow job, or the giver of the penetration. The other way around would make him appear submissive and that would really make me uncomfortable.

Hey, this isn't anything new at all. There are a number of women who just aren't interested in any bi-experimentations. There are also a number of men who would be OK with, or even enjoy, bi-experimentations. It's just that the girl/girl thing is more socially acceptable.

But, I remember way back in the early eighties seeing two guys perform at a house party. I don't recall how it started but I was sure amazed at how all the ladies seemed to be so interested.

Many years ago, when we were newbies at a swing club in NYC. While enjoying some group activity in a matroom, when we noticed the couple next to us engaging in some male to male play. We were next to them, and enjoyed watching. The others on the mats began to notice and joined in watching these two guys grope, stroke and suck. Soon, another gentleman joined in, while their women watched intently.

No one snickered, or spoke. They allowed these men to express themselves as they pleasured each other. It was very erotic watch.

Many years later, we attended a private party where 7 of the 10 couples in attendance were bi. It was great to enjoy group play in the hottub and subsequently in an orgy room without knowing offending anyone.

So many times, bi male play, whether at private party or club, is limited to groping, stroking and sucking. More times than not, such activity is usually shared with his mate or date.

We can count two occasions, where we've seen guys engage in anything more than stroking and sucking with another guy. These were parties for bi guys, bi gals and bi-couples, where such activity was to be found. We've enjoyed watching however its not our interest to engage in.

We say - if it feels good, then do it. Play safe and enjoy!!

I have never had a male cock cum while I was sucking, and though I might not want to do it a thousand time, it seems sexy, and it might be sexy to try a couple. I have sucked another male, and it was surprising to me that they do not cum that quickly or easily.

There is also a position the French call "tete Beche" kind of a 69 with the two males on their sides. It seems that would be erotic.

If I got another male to cum while I was giving him a blow job, I would swallow to see what the taste and texture is like.

I bet a lot of other guys have the same thoughts, but it is not something you really want to push or claim. We are very homophobic.

Now, as to risks. I am against anal sex because of the high risk of HIV/AIDS. Were it not for the high risk, it would be sexy to be penetrated once or so, and to feel a load of cum in my ass. But that is not going to happen.

I have had anal intercourse with several women, and it just does not do much for me.

But giving a good blow job, I would like to try that.