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(Male half here) The Mrs. and I have been toying with the idea of adding in some "extra" excitement to our sex life for a while now. Probably for around three years now, off and on. We have a bunch of toys we have used from time to time to spice things up; handcuffs, restraints, various dildos, cock rings, you know, the usual suspects. We found it's fun to use them during fantasy time and role playing, but it's more of a special occasion thing. My idea in the beginning of it all, was to find another couple to do a foursome/swap type thing with, and she was open to the idea, but we never took it farther than fantasy. We made an account on SLS for shits and giggles. To see what it was all about, and get an idea of the people who did these type things. We replied to a few messages, but that was it. We had offers to meet up for drinks by several couple online, but for whatever reason, we never went through with meeting any of them. I'm not sure if the Mrs. was completely sold on watching me bang another chick in front of her in real life yet. Our family life became very busy, and the idea faded away over the next few months.

 

Fast forward to the present. Last week, her an I were going at it hot and heavy before the kids got off of school, and I was pulling out some of my ever-trusty dirty talk. I put a blindfold on her and was taking her doggie. I never last that long when I am fucking her doggie style. Something about that ass, the whole visual aspect of it that makes me want to blow my load rather quickly. I leaned over, whispered in her ear in a clearly and overly perverse way, "maybe I'll find a guy online, get a hotel room, put you in your blindfold, and invite him over to help me fuck you". Not sure if she was going to play along, her moans and heavy breathing let me know I was doing something right.

 

She couldn't see a thing as I pushed my cock as deep as it would go inside of her pussy. I wondered what was going on in her mind. What was she thinking? I turned her ninety degrees so I could watch us in the bedroom mirror, and with a stern tone I told her, "Open your mouth and imagine sucking my cock". She complied and opened her mouth for me. I told her how beautiful she looked getting railed as she took me in her mouth, and that it was okay. I felt her hot snatch get extremely wet from whatever she was imagining in her head, which in turn made me empty my eager ball content up inside her rather quickly. It was just to much to hold back seeing how horny and into it she got. I knew she did not cum yet, so I put her on her back and proceeded to eat her pussy, while she helped me out by rubbing her own clit like the expert at it she is. I needed her to feel that much needed release.

 

Afterwards I said, "Babe, that was fucking hot", and gave her a nice kiss, with my face still slathered in her juices. With a smile on her face, she told me she had an idea. "Oh yeah?", I said. She continues with "Promise you won't get mad?" I replied, "well depends on what it is I guess". I wasn't entirely sure what she was scheming, but I had a pretty good idea. That was the day she came in to work and told her co-worker that she was thinking of him earlier that day. He asked her what she meant by that several times throughout the day, but it wasn't until the shift was almost over that she finally told him. She said that while she was getting her pussy pounded by me before work, and she told him what I said to her while doing it, and that she was thinking of him.

 

She came home and told me about what she did. What she said to him at work. He told her that from the first time he met her, that he knew she would end up sitting on his face one day. There was an initial shock of her actually saying what I figured she was up to, and I had a few mixed emotions about it. Like her & I not actually discussing her idea before she put it in motion. Him being a coworker makes it much more difficult situation I think. It's not like it's someone she will never see again. She works with him, which can easily be a recipe for disaster. That's why I stressed what will happen if this goes wrong. As long as we are open and honest about shit, we can have fun, and she seemed to understand that, and I slept on it.

 

The next day we talked some more, and had some more really hot sex, during which I had her think of him again, making her say "Fuck me John", and whatnot. Super dirty shit. She got so horny when I told her that I wanted him to make her squirt all over my face. She told me to get on my back, sat on my dick, and grinded it until she gushed all over me and the bed, which of course made me cum like crazy at the same time. She only squirts a couple times a year for me, so I know she was digging it big time, and that's when I knew it would be fun as hell in real life.

 

What are your thoughts on bringing a co-worker into the mix? I figure doing a MFM with her at first will ease her into the idea of really swinging, which will allow her to be comfortable with watching me be with another female. She certainly has no qualms about bringing a dude in.

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What are your thoughts on bringing a co-worker into the mix? I figure doing a MFM with her at first will ease her into the idea of really swinging, which will allow her to be comfortable with watching me be with another female. She certainly has no qualms about bringing a dude in.

 

I am not really sure about the rest. It is also good to hear you guys are having a hot time talking this thing through.

 

However, having a MFM in order to warm up to the idea of full swap, may need a bit of a think through. At least talk to her directly about what you are thinking? That would certainly be my point of view. I certainly would not back track now that she has expressed her sexual desires. I think, it should be doing things that you both find a turn on, but it's not a keep score thing either. Hope that makes some sense.

 

I will also comment that we absolutely do not involve people we know from outside the lifestyle, to be inside our lifestyle. I do think though that is more our own flavor.

 

Good Luck have furn.

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He just started working there 3 weeks before this situation happened. I have talked to him through messages, and let him know my thoughts and the rules. Apparently he has had some non-vanilla type experience, like 3 & 4somes, and being and having a "pet". He seems really respectful of the situation. We are meeting him up for drinks tomorrow night, as per his suggestion. We are getting a room at the casino this month, and she let him in on that fact, but he said he wanted to meet me to make sure I like him before setting anything up. Of course I think it will be a turn on to do the MFMs, but ultimately I'd like to find a couple we can be comfortable with and play. Who knows, maybe i'll find out I actually enjoy the MFM over couple play.

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He just started working there 3 weeks before this situation happened. I have talked to him through messages, and let him know my thoughts and the rules. Apparently he has had some non-vanilla type experience, like 3 & 4somes, and being and having a "pet". He seems really respectful of the situation. We are meeting him up for drinks tomorrow night, as per his suggestion. We are getting a room at the casino this month, and she let him in on that fact, but he said he wanted to meet me to make sure I like him before setting anything up. Of course I think it will be a turn on to do the MFMs, but ultimately I'd like to find a couple we can be comfortable with and play. Who knows, maybe i'll find out I actually enjoy the MFM over couple play.

 

Sounds to me like you may have lucked out here. He's got some experience. He wants to meet you and make sure you're ok with things. He respects your situation. Assuming he is actually as good as he sounds, he may be just the right person to help guide you through these new waters.

 

Meet with him and see how things go. No point in worrying about the work situation. The jinn is out of the bottle now and there's no putting it back. I would suggest you talk to your wife about the importance of being on the same page and the inadvisability of pulling a "surprise" like this again. I would also offer the boilerplate suggest that you and your wife have a nice long talk about all of this in the bright light of day, with your clothes on, over the dinner table.

 

I'd say "good luck" but, like I said, it looks like you've got that going for you already...

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While there are two totally different camps about 'doing it with friends/coworkers', we are in the DON'T camp. After it has happened, she is going to see him almost every day at work. Even if no drama come from this, she will still be seeing him almost every day at work. If drama does happen, she will still see him almost every day at work. What if one of them thinks its more than just sex, she will see him almost every day at work. While things like this have worked out, more often than not it doesn't (use search to find other examples). We have one cast in stone rule: we do not play with co-workers or vanilla friends. Too much of a chance of things going bad and if it happens, it also impacts work and/or home life. Not worth the risk (especially when there are so many single males and couples who are interested in only playing).

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As has been said in this thread and countless others, the standard rule is no play with vanilla friends or coworkers. On the other hand, most girls would be more comfortable playing with someone they know and trust rather than a total stranger. Especially if it was their choice of men rather than someone you found. As was said also, the Genie is out of the bottle with this dude, even if you don't go through with it, he still knows the situation and sees her every day. Let us know how it goes.

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hi

females more comffortable with people they knw same im doing with my wife

she got some hot lihgri from her co wrker nd im encourgeing her

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We started our swinging with MFM and had several with men we didn’t know and then moved to swapping at a club with people we didn’t know. Then, contrary to everything we had read and been told, we had an MFM with a male friend of ours. I found it to be quite nice, less stressful, and kind of a natural transition of a long term friendship into something a little more special. Now, we are much more open with our lifestyle and have included other friends as well. My concern with your situation is more that you are pushing your wife towards an MFM when that is not at all the end game you have in mind. She should be aware that your real goal is either swapping or some other scenario that leads to you playing with other women, FMF perhaps, its not clear. Maybe the two of you need a more direct path to that outcome.

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I have had a few co-workers that I would definitely in different circumstances would have sex with, In fact I do taunt my hubby and also we joke together about that possibility, however apart of some flirting and spicy talk with them i haven't ever have sex with a co-worker mostly because we do not want to deal with any drama at work.

We are not close to the possibility but it needs to be the right kind of person with the right kind set of mind.

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