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How about some bad experiences that couples have had with single or maybe other couples...it would be nice to know what are some of the common stumbling blocks!!!!

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There is only one bad experience that I can think of that we have had with a single man...and even that wasn't that bad.

 

We were at a club and a single man that was a fairly regular visitor to the club's chat room was also at the club that night. While I was out on the dance floor with a friend of ours dancing, the single man was also dancing with someone else and every time he would get close enough to me he would run his hand up underneath my dress...the first time I could forgive, but the second time he did it and I slapped his hand away I told the friend I was dancing with that if he did it again I was going to punch him in the nose. Our friend asked what happened and I told him, he immediately drug me off the floor and back to the table where everyone else was sitting, told them what had happened and then proceeded to have a talk with the club owner. The situation was taken care of immediately.

 

Now...the thing is that this single man thought that because we all got so friendly in the chat room that it was okay to get friendly when meeting in person...which was wrong.

 

I will say that I have had more bad experiences with married men taking liberties like this than I ever have single men, especially since this is the only bad experience with a single man I can think of.

 

Teresa

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My husband and I have been swinging on and off for about 12 years. We stopped after few years. The reason is, my husband and I had a single male friends who we both knew, I had my 2 males. One day the single male showed up at my door one evening. My husband wasn't home he was at work, I let this person in because I knew him. He took advantage while husband wasn't home. I was raped by this person. :mad:

 

My husband and I stop swinging because of what happened. My husband and I just started again about 9 months ago. We both talked very hard about it. We just started be friends with other couples and a single female. We both agree no single males for time being.

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nhcpl1968 said:
My husband and I have been swinging on and off for about 12 years. We stopped after few years. The reason is, my husband and I had a single male friends who we both knew, I had my 2 males. One day the single male showed up at my door one evening. My husband wasn't home he was at work, I let this person in because I knew him. He took advantage while husband wasn't home. I was raped by this person.

 

Oh my goodness, Mrs. nhcpl ... I am sooo sorry to hear about this! How terribly AWFUL for you!!! :sad:

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txduo2000 said:
Oh my goodness, Mrs. nhcpl ... I am sooo sorry to hear about this! How terribly AWFUL for you!!! :sad:

 

Thx. it was was long time ago. My husband I are going to try swinging again , Husband and I are made a pact how we going do this, so far it's been doing well. :) I hope it stays that way.

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We are very cautious when swinging. My wife uses her middle name instead of her first name (which is an unusual name). We never give out our address or phone number. And, we keep a pit bull at home.

 

Our concern was more about single women becoming "hangers on" than single men. Most of us in the lifestyle know the difference between love and sex but some singles may become emotionally obsessed. Always be on the lookout for the warning signals (too many emails, attempts to get too emotionally close, etc.).

 

We have only had a few uncomfortable experiences, no really bad ones. These have mostly involved things getting out of control in orgies. We simply stopped going into orgies. We also had a bad situation in a public MFM when a single masturbating "lurker" just kept getting too close (my wife calls it "within squirting distance"). He simply would not back off when asked, so we just stopped and sat down.

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BorisNatasha said:
Did you put this guy in prison for a long time? Hope so.

 

Boris

 

No he was never going to jail and till this day don't know where he is...  But we have also moved 1000 miles away from where it happened.

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Well as for now we don't have any bad swing experiences We have only had one couple. It was an extended weekend and truth be told it was AMAZING. We separated our "night life" from our Day-times. This couple stayed in our home for an extended weekend with their family and we had an amazing time, all the kids played and we hung out as true FRIENDS but when the kids were down for the night, we went all out for the play time. I have to say that I know this is not the norm for most but for us and this Couple I don't think it could have worked out any better (well maybe if we didn't have any kids around. Then we could have spent days and nights playing.

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First - NHCple....I'm so sorry to hear about this experience and can fully appreciate your taking time away from the lifestyle after that. I think it says a lot for your marriage that not only did it survive that situation, but that you are now re-entering the lifestyle!

 

We've had a few "bad" experiences though mostly not TOO bad. The problem was two were right in a row! One woman, who was bi-curious, and seemed to enjoy the 3-some when we were together, eventually started to develop feelings for my husband. Not an unexpected complication - the problem was she sent him an email asking to talk about it, but asking him NOT to allow me to see the emails until after they had talked "if he still wanted to" at that point.

 

Of course, my husband shared it with me immediatley and I wrote her back. Either I didn't handle it well, or I read it completely correctly, as we were unable to communicate about it enough to fix the situation and never got together again after that as she was quite upset with both of us for how we handled it.

 

The second situation was a definitely bi female with experience, who quickly developed an infatuation with me and not only was pushing too much time on us and talking about being in love, but seemed to have little interest in my husband. When I tried to slow the relationship down she not only became upset, but eventually pretty hostile and aggressive so we told her we had to end the relationship. After that she was so upset that she wound up stalking me for a while, but it eventually died off.

 

The only other situation I had was once in club, we were in the party/play room and while my husband was going down on me, I was laying back enjoying myself with my eyes closed. As a couple on the next bed finished up their play and got up to leave this moron (the male) reached over and tweaked my nipple! It happened so quickly as he walked out that he was gone from the room before either my husband or I came up off the bed - and we chose not to make a scene so let it drop, but it definitely ruined my mood! It seemd not only like the high-schoolish behavior of a testerone overloaded teenager, but rude and invasive.

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I posted about bad experiences here:

First time experience was a bad one

 

THEN here: "........ at the advice of some online friends, we decided to go back to the same club. We had fun, socialized and then my wife and I went to the playroom to have fun by ourselves. We were in the middle of it when a guy just tried to enter her bareback again and I heard my wife saying NO twice.......She jumped and left the bed.

 

 

Long story short, I beat the crap out of him and weren't for the owners I would've put him in a coma or worst. He was such a wimp and didn't even put a single hand up, just took the beating like a bitch.

 

Still think he got off cheap for his attempted rape. My right wrist still hurts.

 

Our guess is that this shit happens a lot more than people like to admit of....

 

Anyway, we got the membership refunded and had enough swinging for now...

 

Good luck to the rest of you tho.

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. . . Our guess is that this shit happens a lot more than ppl like to admit of.......
My guess is that things like this happen far fewer times that what people say in the World Wide Web.

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My guess is that things like this happen far fewer times that what people say in the World Wide Web.

Yep. I agree.

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My guess is that things like this happen far fewer times that what people say in the World Wide Web.

 

I have talked with swing friends and they have related poor experiences..drama..drunkeness...weirdness. But overall most people I know have had great experiences.

 

The only "bad" experiences we've had is for my wife where then men had performance issues. Early in swinging she took that badly but now realize its not her.

 

One tragic experience was a couple in our area were killed by another couple they met at a beach town in Maryland. I believe they met on the local town bus and hung out at a bar. They wound up back at the killer's condo. This is a very isolated situation but does make one think about immediately going to a strange couple's house.

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hmm ima have to stop reading these ones and goto the good times its getting me so sad why are thier so many idiots out thier i realy hope i dont become one of those type of people but then again im way to shy to realy do anything it would be more voyeurism hehe

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hmm ima have to stop reading these ones and goto the good times its getting me so sad why are thier so many idiots out thier i realy hope i dont become one of those type of people but then again im way to shy to realy do anything it would be more voyeurism hehe

 

I think knowledge of what can happen is important, just so you are prepared and avoid getting one self into a situation that is bad. If you worry too much by see all that is bad out in the world you'd never leave the house!

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